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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello,I've recently moved out with my boyfriend to our own place from my nan's. I have always been close to my nan, she pretty much raised me since my mum had me very young so I've always seen my nan as my mum. So moving out has naturally made me miss her.But I miss her all the time, sometimes I wish I could live with her permanently but I know that can't really happen. I make sure to stay in touch and visit her every sunday but whenever I leave the house I feel guilty and upset. Im afraid that she might not feel as close to me as she used to either now that shes around other family members more.How do I get used to this?(modnote: nan means grandmother)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2014): It's totally natural to miss her, I can completely understand as she's been both your mum and your nan over the years. I am guessing your relationship is so important because she's fufied both these roles.But everyone needs to leave home eventually, your Nan will miss you terribly but also she deserves time for herself now without worrying about taking care of others. Not that she would consciously want you to go, but our parents/grandparents do so much that they deserve to see you move on and that they did a good job raising you - if you're out in life making good choices then it confirms they raised you well and you can do them proud.You have your boyfriend for company, so your nan will spend time with other family because she will want to catch up with them and have company herself. She'll probably also tell them all how proud she is you've gone and got your own place and you're doing well! Nothing will change you relationship and you will see this as time passes, you will still be close because of your last together, that doesn't go away just because you move away. Why not give her a call some evenings and have a little chat? It's great you visit her every week, include your bf if you don't already so he can get to know this special lady and he can appreciate your bond with her x
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