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writes:hi i have been away from the lady i still love for just under a year. we had 2 kids they are aged 8 and 6. she keeps saying she loves me but not in love with me. she has been seeing some guy for 4 mounths. did she love me or did she only say this to string me along? Reply to this Question
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Hello. You havent given much background to go on but im sure she did love you. She says she still does. Its obviously just not a strong enough love to make her want to be with you. Its sometimes very difficult to accept things are done and move on when an ex talks about still having feelings such as love. I think what she means is she still cares enough about you to want to let you down gently BUT those feelings arent strong enough to sustain a relationship with you. Its still early days in your break up, but if you can, look at what shes said as a positive thing and aim for a good friendship. Just as love can grow, it can die. I think for whatever reason, thats probably what happened with your ex.
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reader, Boombadaboom  +, writes (11 June 2010):
 she probably means it exactly as she says it. She doesn't have strong feelings for you but she still cares about you. Your relationship probably was like a campfire. You let it go out. You didn't work enough on it to keep it going. The fire is gone but the warmth remains. She `was´ in love with you enough and now still loves you enough not to be apart on bad terms. Be happy, you might have one of those good endings that lots of people wish for in case it happens. You two still are friends. You were good to her and therefor still trusts and respects you. Consider this a good thing and find new happiness in your life. Good luck
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