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writes:Hi I'm thirteen and on July 31,2010 we had unprotected sex after three days I started bleeding I had bad cramps and it didn't last as long as it usually does and it was extremely heavy.I'm seeing the signs of being pregnant but I haven't taken a test or anything.I had to have a physical for school and she listened to my heart and then she listened to my stomach she thought I was pregnant bit i think that she couldn't hear the babys heartbeat.the daddy is my best friends brother and she told him that I needed to talk to him about something.Aparentley he said what is she pregnant she said she thinks she is.He is so scared now he told her to tell me to get an abortion but I'm against it.I want to keep the baby but he doesn't because he feels like he will get in trouble by his dad and he says that he is not ready for a baby right now.What should I do I'm so scared?
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reader, Sweety123 +, writes (7 January 2011):
 hi ive been in ur situation though luckily it turned out i wasnt pregnant but i was so scared to tell my mom because she was so big on god but the secret finally got out and she just wanted to make sure i was ok she didnt judge me or yell or anything she was just concerned about my health but what im trying to say is that you can tell your parents anything and they will still love you no matter what and if it turns out ur pregnant there is always the option of putting the baby up for adoption if you are against abortion or cant afford to keep the baby because there are familys out there who desperatly want a baby. dont let anyone pressure you one way or the other because you are the who has to live with your decisions for the rest of your life i hope everthing works out for the best with you :)
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reader, banjopicker +, writes (10 September 2010):
Buy the test. Follow the instructions carefully. If it's negative, great. The heavy bleeding may be a sign of miscarriage. If you were a virgin and the heavy bleeding occured shortly after sex, this is normal for some girls. Still you need to see a doctor for a pap and check up because you are sexually active. They will do the pregnany test again and test for other things like STD's. If it's positive you need to tell your parents. If you are afraid, maybe the school nurse or a favorite teacher can help. If an abortion is an option for you, it will cost about $400-$600 depending on where you live and an adult will have to be with you to sign paperwork. Tell the boy you slept with. If it's positive, your parents will probably want to talk to his parents. They can press charges, should they decide to.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 September 2010):
 It's time to talk to your parents. Buy a pregnancy test and confirm whether or not you truly are pregnant. Then get the help you need to cope with this situation, as it is clearly not something you are able to handle just yet, due to your age.
Please tell your mom that you think you are pregnant, you are only 13 and have your whole life ahead of you. Let her be the parent and help you through this.
Good luck.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (10 September 2010):
 I think the father of your child is right. It wouldn't be fair to anyone, not your parents, not the father, not the growing child inside you, not even you, ESPECIALLY you.How are you planning on raising it anyway whilst still handling your education? it wouldn't be fair to you to force your parents to care for another child. You are far too young, mentally and physically. Get an abortion.I hope that helps.
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