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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My heart is so heavy, I just got back in touch with a girl I dated over 10 years ago (I split up, was a fairly casual relationship, no sex), we met up and had a nice night talking and drinking, nothing more, and at the end of it held each other and at that point I just felt we were as one and it was as if part of me I had forgotten about had just been reconnected. The problem is, we're both in relationships and have children a couple of toddlers each and I could never live with myself if I hurt them, but at the same time I know where my heart is right now :( I love my girfriend, and she her boyfriend, but I've never felt the way I did when I held her with anyone else in my life, so now I'm really suffering with a heavy heart :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): I was married with a child, my husband used to work away, i happened to bump in to my ex who i hadnt seen for years! All the feelings came flooding back. He was with someone, we started seeing eachother again behind everyones back, i thought it was real love. He said if i left my husband we would start fresh. So i went through a massive divorce which took 3 years( i was still seeing my lover)then when it was all over, he said he couldnt leave her!! due to money commitments. I wish i hadnt gone with my feelings, but i payed the price. Dont start an affair if your head says so, its natural for people to have feelings for exs, but why did it all end in the first place? ask yourself that question? Stay with your wife. Only leave if you dont love your wife ( the grass isnt greener)
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reader, bqagirl2692 +, writes (3 December 2007):
 For the sake of your family, be very wise on the choices you make if you continue to contact your ex. My opinion, she was probably put in your way as a task for you to complete. You know that the both of you could never have anything more than what you have right now. Dont let it go forward or else you'll end up doing something you'll regret forever. Be careful on what you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): i'm having a rough time seeing this work out. you had a nice time with a girl you weren't serious with, but how far could that go? It sounds to me like you're just nostalgic for what was and you were drinking a little so that always enhances feelings, especially sense of touch, so your embrace may be inflated in your head. if you really are regretting your life with your girlfriend break it off, but like i said, i don't think the answer is getting with this woman, you just sound like you're going through an early mid life crisis. i could be totally off, though, let's see what the other aunts have to say about this.
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