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writes: Hi. i have recently met someone. I met this person online, and at first i was just talking to her to kill time. As i got to know her, i had this feeling she was the one for me and i started to get these feelings i have never had before, and before i knew it we were saying we loved each other. We have organised to meet as we have not met yet, and the first 3 days im staying at a hotel, but she said i can stay at hers for last two days. So my question is, do you think it is too soon to be staying over as i will feel awkward with her parents and brother because they may not agree with meetings online. I do really like this girl and dont know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (2 March 2006):
 It's possible you are right and she may want to use a 'back story' but on the other hand she wouldn't have asked you if it wasn't ok. Generally people are suspiscious of net meets especially if they don't use it much themselves.
Also it is alot of pressure for your first meet considering you are only just meeting yourselves. I think your best course of action is to talk to the girl you are meeting about it. Explain how you feel and she what she says; she will be able to give you an insight into how her parents and brother may feel.
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reader, juliagulia +, writes (2 March 2006):
 OK. First off, saying you love someone that you have never spent any face time with is not really a good idea. Not that looks are important, but you need to really see each other in order to determine your true feelings. It may be that there is no chemistry between you when you first kiss (which is a big deal to most women i know...) So, just look out with that. Secondly, I think maybe it will be too soon to stay with her family. You need to focus on getting to know each other face to face and having to spend too much time around her family is a lot of pressure on a just-budding relationship. A little soon to be meeting the fam, in my opinion. But, hey, you really like her personality so far, so maybe you won't mind being there just to be near her. That will be determined when you actually get there. But I think you should consider booking the other two nights at the hotel and maybe let her stay with you to log in some alone time! If you do decide to stay with her and her family, you need to ask her to make sure they are prepared for your arrival. It is her responsibility to explain the situation and answer any questions they might have. All you can do is be yourself and try to be nice to them and that should prove that they have nothing to worry about.
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