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writes:Im chubby and not extremely pretty, I've only had 1 relationship and that was when i was 12-13 and it didn't last long as we were better at being friends. So we left it, I haven't kissed anyone and I'm 14, nearly 15.I never get any attention from boys, then I met this lad On MSN, and I really liked him but I used a fake picture of my friend who is really pretty.What should I do? Please help me, I don't want to lie to him anymore but I don't want him to hate me either :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): Well you shouldnt have lied in the first place, ok thats over you shouldnt have used a fake picture when you want to be with a guy they should like you for you and dont pretend to be anyone else. As for the fact you havent kissed anyone no one cares, my friend first kissed someone when she was 16, she hated herself afterwards cos she only used someone. Yer its not your virginity but its stil special so dont be in a rush to do it, when you find the right guy it'll be worth it. I first kissed someone before my 16th and i dont care. You have to tell this guy, i dunno how he'll react but you will need to tell him. Guys like confidence you want attention you gotta believe your the best looking girl in the room and they'll come crawling. But you are only 15 dont worry bout guys too much have a good time while your still young. And if you ever meet a guy off the net take someone with you just to be safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): Things sure have changed since I was 13-15, we did not meet people we never have seen before over a thing called the internet and our boyfriend/girlfriend relationships only lasted about a week, and we weren't allowed to date until we were at least 16. AAh those were the good old days, when kids could be kids.
Since I am an old fart, I think you are too young to be meeting boys on line, this boy could really be a 40 year old man, and a child molestor....I would forget about ever meeting him in person, and if you prefer making friends on line instead of the reall face to face way (although I don't know why you would prefer it) then use your own picture otherwise, you won't get much gratification out of knowing the person likes you for you...I still don't get how you can really get to know someone through typing on a keyboard and saying a few words that you know people like to hear, it is much trickier in real life and a whole lot more fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): Oh dear. I don't think we need to lecture you on the value of being honest, because I think you learned a painful life lesson here. I suggest you get a picture of yourself, email him and come clean and tell him this is who you really are. Apologize and explain how badly you feel about your deception. And leave it at that. If he gets back to you, then great! And then again, you may never hear from him again, simply because he will be questioning your integrity. But by doing this, you are doing the right thing, hun. You can't let this go on and keep playing with this guy's emotions. That is just so wrong. Now, do this and don't be too tough on yourself, you are very young and you made a poor choice. Heck, there are adults and much more older, people that do this, on line. They send perspective love interests, a fake picture all because they feel no one will like them for who they really are. That is not always true. There are wonderful people out there who'll accept a person, as is. So now, the best you can do is let this go and get out in the real world and get to know people, face to face and people you can be truly honest and truthful with. Work at building your self-confidence too, hun. This is the main reason you did this, was thinking he wouldn't like you for you. Tell him the truth and see how he reacts, but the fact that you didn't feel quite right being yourself in this situation is a huge hint that something is off with the way you feel about yourself. You likely have a lot to offer but your self-esteem needs a boost. Work on that, sweety. Good luck, dear
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reader, kenny +, writes (5 March 2007):
 the only problem with this is you can not now meet this boy, because he will be expecting to see your mate and not you, unless you come clean soon of course.
And who says you are not pretty, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. remember you are still young and have got alot of maturing to do.
As for this guy on MSN i would find someone else, and next time start with telling the truth. If a boy dosen't like you for you, well he simply is not worth it.
Good luck x
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