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writes:Honest answers from guys, I don't care if they are hurtful I need to know a truthful answer. What do you think of girls who wear coloured lenses? Do you not care so much, think they're fake, find them attractive.. what?Because I met this guy whilst I had coloured lenses on, making my dark brown eyes a green hazel colour. The contacts look so natural! Unlike ones most people get, so he couldn't tell they weren't real. In fact, he complimented on my eyes a few times the night we met and asked me on a date saturday night. I want to tell him they aren't my actual eye colour so he doesn't feel i've deceived him or lied (which at the moment i haven't, since he hasn't asked).It's not for insecurity reasons, or that I don't like my own colour eyes. I just love wearing them in the evenings, they're fun and compliment my face so much. So I wondered if I should go on the date without them on and if he asks just say they were contacts. Or, whether I should go with them on and then when he next compliments them. I could say 'thank you, but they're contacts. Couldn't you tell' and just laugh it off. I don't know what I should do? I'm worried either way he'll be turned off by me and think i'm fake and not be interested in seeing me again? Which is a shame, because we get along so amazingly. If you could help with the date situation, as well as what you think of coloured lenses yourself? Reply to this Question
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (9 February 2012):
 Awh, that is cute... a girl who still thinks men actually notice things like this.
A couple years of marriage should cure it.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (9 February 2012):
 It's not fake, nor is it lying unless you say that that's your natural eye color. It's something you wear to enhance beauty. Colored contacts are no more a lie than dying your hair, breast implants, or makeup!
If you feel you want to tell him, don't make it a big deal! I'm guessing he's more interested in the soul within your eyes than the color anyways!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 February 2012):
 Didn't you already go on a date with him as this was over a week ago? Have you had much contact with him since you first met him, and has he brought up your eyes again? It's all fine, as long as you haven't been pretending it's your real eye colour.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-tell-this-gorgeous-man-that.html
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reader, person12345 +, writes (9 February 2012):
 I doubt he'd care, and I REALLY doubt he didn't notice they were contacts. Some contacts look good from the front, but there are none that you can't see when you turn to the side or look up or down. But really, I don't see the difference between that and say, dying your hair and I don't think many guys would either.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (9 February 2012):
 Push-up bras make your boobs look bigger, make-up makes you prettier (sometimes), and heels make you look taller. But in the end, I could care less. None of those can conceal your true character or personality.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2012): Sorry did I say "fake"? I meant "accentuate features" ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2012): All girls are fake OP whether it's coloured contact lenses, fake tan, a bra that makes your boobs look a completely different shape, mascara to make your lashes look fuller, a dress the pushes your curves into a certain shape, heels that make you taller, underwear that shapes your arse, lipstick that makes your lips look more glossy, nail varnish that makes your nails shiny. All women fake it at one time or another and we expect that and are not bothered by it.
Don't worry about it OP, you're just a normal woman and all normal women are fake in a way.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 February 2012):
 If I wore two contacts I'd have green eyes when I had them in... I hate my brown eyes..
it's like glitter in your hair or special makeup no big deal....
and if he says "well you have brown eyes I only date girls with light eyes" then he's not worth it anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2012): I'm sorry to break this to you, dear, but you have in fact already deceived this man, even though you haven't acknowledged it. You wrote that he complimented you "a few times" on your eyes. Well, that was your chance to come clean and tell him you were wearing contacts. Since you didn't, he is under the false impression that your eyes are that color.With that in mind, you are already in damage control mode. You've got to break the bad news, the only question is how to do it. My suggestion is to go on your date without them. He'll probably notice and say something about it, and at that point you tell him you were wearing contacts and explain why. Then you hope he isn't put off too badly that you didn't tell him when he first remarked on your eyes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2012): In school one of the asian girls, Caroline, used to wear big blue contact lenses and it looked really unreal , quite 'cool'. But really obvious that they were contact lenses and it was strange that she felt it necessary to wear them. Anyways, If this guy is making a big deal about the colour of your eyes and how amazing they are then that's bad because he obviously is used to them that colour. My advice is next date don't wear them, you get along well anyways, so it'll probably work out.
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reader, alyssajanemccarton  +, writes (9 February 2012):
 Sweetie, we'd all be fakes if that's true! Just casually bring it up the next time you meet! It's not as though you told him that it was real! Relax and laugh it off; that sounds great! And I think colored contacts are fine; they do make you prettier after all! It's only human nature to want to be beautiful, so keep strutting your stuff, girl!
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