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writes:i am a 19 year old girl.I'm in a relationship with a guy for one year.I'm not able to forget my first love which was on facebook.that guy used to flirt with which i took seriously we were friends for three years .when i confronted him he said it was never a flirt.it was all as friends.after which i blocked him .i fell in love with him while chatting with him for three years.we became great friends.we used to chat for hours .he used to make me feel special by dedicating me flowers ,poems.romantic songs etc.After blocking him i became so depressed and lonely that i formed a new relationship with my guy friend .i thought i will forget my online ex friend, but i just cant.i confessed to my boyfriend who has met my online friend also and after his meeting only i confronted my online friend. I'm feeling depressed. please help .my boyfriend is in the same condition.please help us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2015): you didn't mention if he is from the same state as you. in that case, you could have given him a chance to meet and know each other and she if you too are compatible. But since you have a real life BF, keeping contact with that guy will only make you feel swad. So it is best for you to forget the facebook past and move on with your new relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2015): You should forget the guy since he was on Facebook.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2015): You were too involved in a fantasy fairytale relationship online. It's partially your parent's fault for not limiting your constant use of your digital devices, and not insisting you get out and socialize with your friends and have fun.
Let me guess, they did try; and you hid and did it anyway?
You never even spent time together, just hours of fantasizing. You've spent too much time online. Now your brain is still floating around in cyber-space pining for that imaginary boyfriend.
You've formed an addiction to texting and messaging. That . my dear, will take some time to get-over. It's just like being on an addictive drug. Your mind is a slave to it.
Like all addictions, you fight them until you break-free.
You have to live and mingle in the real world. You have to interact with boys in real-time; so you can get used to the experience of sharing the warmth and emotion of being close to a guy. You have to give up your fairytale imagination and wake-up from the dreamworld your digital devices created for you. You've spent hours of your time. That is totally unhealthy! So breaking the "habit" is your problem, not missing the boy. He has moved on and met someone else.
He is probably enjoying all the things real-life offers people your age!
You are still a little-girl in your head. You fell in-love with an imaginary prince, his silly poems, and fake flowers. Childish-dreams, and things that were not even real. You're a young lady now. Not a little girl.
He never visited you, held your hand, or kissed you. Get away from digital devices and move around in the world of reality. You're missing out on life, and your youth will vanish before you know it. You'll become awkward, weird, and silly in the presence of other people. You need to clear your mind and comeback to earth. Get out and walk among other living and breathing human beings. Laugh and have fun. Dance! Shop! Flirt!
You need to fight your thoughts and move on. You will get over him, and his fantasy-world; when you meet someone you really like. Only if you put down your devices and get out into the world. Don't worry, you just haven't met anyone who means anything to you yet. If you really don't care for your real boyfriend. Let him go. Stop wasting his time and leading him on.
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