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*orb21
writes:I met a girl would a month ago through some mutual friends. We talked for a bit and exchanged numbers. We started texting daily and I began the long study period for my law school exams, so my social life became nonexistent. After about two weeks or so, she started getting antsy and demanded I come see her. I had told her I was super busy, which was true, I studied all day with groups and rarely did anything else, but that I would make time eventually. Soon, she threatened to stop talking to me if I didn't meet with her, so I finally did one night. She was really drunk and we almost had sex, but I decided against it because of how drunk she was. The next morning, she texted me apologizing and saying she isn't normally like that and she was sorry and begged I come see her for a while. I said I could for an hour and we sat together on the sofa watching some TV Show. I didn't try to have sex with her - I didn't have time. I asked her if she wanted to get together the next night, and she said yes and I left. The next day, I asked her if she still wanted to get together and she was busy with friends. That was fine. I asked for a later date when my exams ended Friday. She told me she had a friend coming to town till Sunday/Monday but could probably hang out later before she left to go home. I asked her last night if she could see me before she left and she said "my friend is in town till probably wednesday and then I am leaving to go home." Since last monday, she has not texted me daily and is sort of being short and unresponsive on text. What's going on? Did she just lose interest? Mad I didn't have sex with her? t am finally free for the holidays and she doesn't seem to want to hang out at all, but won't tell me she isn't interested or to stop bothering her. But at this point, I probably will just leave her alone. Should I try asking her straight up in about a week what's going on? It seems obvious to me even though she won't say it.
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reader, zorb21 +, writes (17 December 2013):
zorb21 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat is what I am thinking. She just wants attention and when she gets it, she moves on.
She was asking me to take her out for the longest time too, which is the only thing that was keeping me from thinking she just wanted a chase, and because she said at one point she was asking me out/hated that we met during my exam season when I had no time.
But law school exams just got in the way and I didn't have time for her, and she didn't want to wait.
I expect she does this all the time though, so I am not going to let it bother me too much. I may talk to her in a few weeks if she doesn't contact me first, but otherwise, no point in pursuing it or letting her play games.
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reader, zorb21 +, writes (17 December 2013):
zorb21 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat is my thought...that she likes the chase and once I gave in and saw her, she was uninterested. I also thought maybe she was mad and felt rejected I didn't have sex with her or that I failed to make a move on her the next day when she begged me to come over for an hour before I left to study. Either way, I'm going to give this space and see what happens. I think she wants more than a friendship and my actions didn't indicate I wanted anything more. I was stressed and frankly didn't think much about her during the past month of school. I'll either leave her alone or ask her if she will go to dinner and watch a movie with me after she gets back in January. Maybe she really has a friend in town and that's why she didn't wait another week to see me when I actually had time.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 December 2013):
 I don't think she's the right girl for you. She's very pushy when she wants it and when she doesn't have time for you then you should just disappear. When you got together by her request she did not care about leaving a good impression but instead let you see her getting wasted. You did the right thing by not having sex with her. It would be taking advantage of her because she did not have the conscious mind to give consent.
I think she is more anxious about filling the empty slots in her schedule than she's interested in you. Her impulsive drinking could mean that she had an emotional problem, like she can't handle a moment of peace and silence. Maybe she grabs onto people of interest just like she grabs a bottle. I know you don't socialize now but it's better to have no one than to worry about a girl who's not considerate of your time.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 December 2013):
 She sounds "high-maintenance" and not in a good way. Seems like all she wanted was for YOU to do the chasing and then she backed off.
She didn't believe you when you said you were busy with studies and she DEMANDED that you come see her? And then when you do she is drunk and tries to have sex with you?
So much drama and ONLY after 2 weeks of knowing her...
Honestly, I'd let this one go.
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