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writes:Basically, i'm 15 and i have two best friends who are boys (we'll call them tom and james) it's like us 3 are really close. Not so long ago tom started sort of coming onto me and at first i was like :S i don't know he's my best friend but then because it didn't feel wrong i just went with it and me and tom started doing stuff, there wasn't any feelings there but it felt right and we both agreed it wasn't weird and it just carried on from there and we're really close now. We told James and he seemed fine and everything. Then last night James was at mine and he came onto me, i kept saying it was weird and was liek pulling away and distracting us. But it carried on. James was like but we've come so close and i was liek exactly i don't want to ruin that and he was like noo it will make us closer and i was like what like me and tom and he was like yeah. So we were kissing and stuff and he undid my bra but it just didn't feel right. In the past i had had feeling for Tom so i was shocked that it didn't and he's really goodlooking too. I said to him i felt like a competition between him and Tom and that I don't want to do anything because i don't want to seem easy and just do stuff with both my best friends beacause its slaggy. He was like No it's not like that i love you ( i assume he ment as a friend) he was constantly asking me if i wanted to go further but i kept saying no and luckily i was on my period. but i felt so restricted he was on top of me and hes strong and heavy. Tears started to trickle down my face as i told him that was enough and he got off and stuff and yeah. He left like straight after because his lift was here, not knowing i was crying, as soon as he left i rang Tom and told him everything. he was so shocked and wanted to call him right away but i wouldn't let him. James text me liek sorry if it was weird for you it wasn't for me and stuff i replied ok x and he was like stop being so blunt- in a jokey way and he did say it wouldn't happen again. But now i feel really strange, i'm so confused. :( there's obviously alot more like detail and build up to the story and i know i've already written an essay so yeah. I just needed to get it off my chest and get your opinion. :| thanks xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry, i tend to do that alot :$ but thank you for your advice (: everything is fne now, and it was at toms house then James was at mine babysitting and my little sister was asleep. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): where are your parents when this is going on, just curious?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): you sound like your a bit lost. you should sit down with both of them and tell them both how you feel, if either of them has a problem tell them to get stuffed for a while to let them decide what's more important your friendship or getting off with you.
in the end this is about you as much as them and if they don't respect that they don't deserve to be your friend/boyfriend
PS not being mean but it was a bit difficult to read your question because you used like alot :)
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