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writes: I'm in my early 50's and menopause has hit me full force. I am dealing with it well, but my partner is not. The nightsweats, the forgetfulness, the headaches, the mood swings (not severe-just sadder, more) are all part of it. I am under doctor's supervision and doing all I can to alleviate the symptoms. My concern is my partner. I have explained all this to him, we have books, literature on the subject but he acts pouty that I am like this. He says I am not the 'same woman'. And he gets angry in the night, when the night sweats and headaches wake me up and I have to leave the bed, to go and find relief (cooling off). He is very edgy and does not understand. I am at a loss. Does anyone have tips, on how I can work with him on this? I have been wondering why he doesn't support me through this? Has he lost respect and love for me? Because if he has, I don't think I want to remain here and tolerate this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): When my mom was at that age and going through menopause she drove my entire family insane.
Basically just being pissed off alot, or just acting weird or moody.
She also bought some book about it and tried getting my old man to read it... This may sound harsh but guys really arn't interested in finding out about menopause.
You could be complaining about alot or whining excessively without noticing it, and that drives guys nuts.
Again not trying to sound mean, just giving an honest opinion.
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reader, penta  +, writes (24 April 2007):
 Does he have a female friend who's going through the same thing? There's something about men that they'll believe anyone other than their partner. "Familiarity breeds contempt." When I was pregnant for the first time, the hormones did bizarre things to my taste buds. Things I used to love would make me really ill (just the smell). Nothing tasted right. Or good. I craved (of all things) McDonald's Happy Meal Hamburgers. Blech. And my so-called morning sickness was 24/7 for 19 weeks; he'd cook and I'd be running away from it, spitting it out so I wouldn't throw up.He acted like I did all this just to piss him off. It was like I wanted to get out of cooking, rather than the smell of anything made me want to hurl. He didn't believe me, which made me want to kill him. (It didn't help that hormones were all out of wack -- which I'm sure you understand well!)Anyway, we were talking to a female friend of his from high school. She and I got to talking about my pregnancy, and she mentioned that for hers her taste buds acted very strange (I hadn't mentioned mine). She said that for some strange reason yogurt tasted like cauliflower to her. She and I started laughing about the taste bud thing.A week later, I discovered that my DH hadn't believed me about the taste bud thing at all until she mentioned it. I was going to kill him.So anyway, does HE have a female friend about your age? Maybe this would work for you too?
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