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writes:Hi, im just wondering if any guys out there can help me with my problem. Im a 23 year old girl and quite recently I have been getting alot of male attention from different guys. I dont mean to sound big headed, but I am an attractive girl with a nice figure etc, etc. I know men are attracted to me by my looks but when they get to know me more they seem to back off. I know Im not a nasty person but boys have often said they find me very irritating. This has shocked me alot because I really cant see what im doing wrong.It has also affected the way I interact with boys now because Im constantly worrying about what they think of me. Please can you tell me what men find most attractive about a womans personality and what the most irritating things are and the biggest turn-offs are? Im so worried I will end up with nobody or in a line of disastrous relationships because Im driving them away without realising!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2006): One of the most irritating things I very much despise about a female is if they are easily influenced by outsiders. They don't have to be super strong willed, but if they seem to listen to foreigners more so than to themselves, that would be a major turn off for me.
I like brave women. Shy is nice on the outside, but at least be brave of who you are. What they can do on the other hand [grin], I can help them with that. 8]
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (11 June 2006):
 Perhaps its a case of trying too hard! Maybe you come over as too eager to please, to eager to make him feel great! Its all about the two of you, what you both want, Men like a girl that can stand up for herself, but not be overbearing. They like someone that will be their self, someone thay can have a laugh with, someone to talk to and someone to tell them if there is a problem, someone that will allow them to still be themsleves and someone that can give them their space when they need it. They also like it if you can show an interest in something they do, and not just seem as though you are interested, of cousre you do need to be interested, and allow them to see that you are encouraging them to do what the want, they like to chat about all sorts not just hair and makeup and shoes! Men are simple in what they like and the simpliest of things that we like can drive them bananas! Include yourself in things that they do rather than think about how you are percieved, if you worry about you too much then they are just going to see a self concious person, once they are attacted to you are half way there. Let the real you show through and let your personality be your flair. Men dont like to think they are doing something wrong, but equally if you just agree to everything they say without an opinion of your own they become bored. They dont on all accounts really always like a pushover or someone that is too too nice, so maybe just relax a bit more, take your time, and the right one will come along that will love you warts and all!
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (11 June 2006):
 The thing that attracts me to somebody is personality, humour and confidence within themself.Some women can tend to seem unapproachable, mainly because they can seem to think they are better than others.I like somebody who is content with themself, without the need to criticise others.I think they are being harsh by saying you are irritating, maybe they are not for you if they would say sometging like that. A genuine guy should never hurt a female, whether physical or verbal.Just try to be yourself and let your real personality show through.As a side note, I think you seem lovely.
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