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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have known my best friend for a very long time. When it's just the two of us, we talk for hours and get along amazingly well. But when other people, like her/our friends, are around, she can be really mean sometimes (not a lot, but I feel like time to time is already too much). Nothing really horrible, but stuff where she tries to make me look bad... like calling or implying I'm stupid or lazy, and publicly turning me down by making it seem like I'm too lame for her. I always speak of her in a good light in front of others and have always been there for her no matter what. After all, aren't best friends supposed to have eachother's backs all the time?She wasn't like this when we first met, but this isn't her acting out... She has been like this for the past 3-4 years. I feel like maybe at first it was her acting out, but over time it has become a habit, which has turned into her personality.She often does it to our other friends too. When I try to speak to her about how she shouldn't be so cruel to them, she says she doesn't lie about how she feels about people in any moment and won't be "fake". I personally feel like it's just immature and hurtful to publicly put down people who consider you a friend. Because of this, a lot of our friends chose to push her away years ago, but I have stayed around because I've always felt we were best friends and that she would come around. She is going through a tough time these past few months with family issues too... I want to be there for her, but it's becoming harder and harder to constantly let things slide like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2011): Hang on darling and one thing slightly push away don't always reply to calls or go over for a mall crawl make her need you..then she'll realize:)
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