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writes:there is a woman at work i have been sleeping with for about a year, there were so many feelings shared early in the relationship that were outstanding on both our parts. Well theres a huge problem, She has been married for twenty years but has cheated a bit on her husband shes just not completely happy because he wont work and get a job. she has been paying everything, getting payday loans to pay the months bills n rent and still is having a hard time struggling, seeing this affects me since no doubt im completely in love with her with my all, which i did not plan on. I was with a woman before for 11 years, married six of them and i never felt anything for the ex wife what i feel for this woman. Her take on it is that she has told me she cant bring herself to leave her husband because she does love him its been 20 years and she gets a different kind of love from me. We both said before we slept with each other that there would be no strings and i certainly had no idea id fall for her. She does have feelings for me but its so hard for her to admit it we get in arguments alot and argue but neither one of us can walk away. I told her never to leave her husband but i think the guilt is getting to her, please let me know if im nuts. I feel at this point i couldnt bring myself to sleep with another woman besides her because shes the one i want but....shes not mine because shes married..let me know
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): Yep I agree with u - u need to spread your wings and sleep with another woman.Your married woman has had a few affairs so u are nothing special to her.Get out of this mess before it destroys your life.LoveGirl
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reader, soon567 +, writes (20 March 2011):
She's using him? What a joke...this man (if you can call him a man) sleep with another man's wife for over a year and she's using him. The easy when to sleep with is one that is emotionally beat down. They're quickies and just time passers. His girl/married lover goes from one man bed to the next and he call it love. Yes its a different kind of love and pretty pathetic to me. She has a loser then fools around with another loser.Men prey on the vulnerable until they’re tired of them.“She does have feelings for me but its so hard for her to admit it” She has problems telling you that she loves you, yet the man that she so unhappy with...wait let me get it. Here: “she has told me she cant bring herself to leave her husband because she does love him its been 20 years” She can tell you how she feels about her husband.I am 45 and still can get a single woman and a lot younger, but I never need to go after a 40+ married old lady to get laid. Go find a woman that cares and leave this man wife alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011): She cheats because he won't work and and she has to pay for everything? Wow... imagine if every man who was in that situation cheated on his wife. She sounds immature and she is using you. Lose her number and avoid her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2011): ..and you seem to be getting a high from all this drama...Lust and infatuation are strong emotions too but the do not stand the test of time...Regardless of how you feel, what you are doing is wrng...I adbvise you to end it now and move on and then cut of all contact from her to allow yourself heal,.....Find yourself someone who is AVAILABLE to love you and give you the affection you need..Trust me there are eligible women out there
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (19 March 2011):
With all the lovely women in the world looking for relationships, why would you settle for a married woman? This is your problem to figure out! A married woman is not 100% free to be your mate. And, if she were free, would she play around on you? There is something keeping her in her marriage all these years. My suggestion is to move forward in your life, tell her it was fun while it lasted, but that you deserve more from life!
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reader, Lee jong  +, writes (19 March 2011):
 Man what i can say is you are doing a wrong thing and you know that, i dont see you with her together so long. Because so far it's great sex, but you don't have something common, that can build up a strong relationship.arguing a lot it's one of the signs that you cant keep her long to yourself. I suggest you quit this early, before she tries to marry you. Because i promise she's going to cheat even on you
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