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writes:I've been with my boyfriend a couple of weeks now and we've had sex a few times. I really want to try going on top, it's something that I fantasise about often and he's said he wants me to but I've never tried it. I can usually get on top but then I kinda get stuck as to what to do. He tells me to bounce up and down but I just feel weird doing that. I'm going to try that again next time, and then lean forward and put my hands near his head so I can rock back and forth but I feel like I can't do it and it's getting me down. I really want to do this so what can I do to make it easier? Reply to this Question
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (17 March 2009):
 There's more to sitting on top than meets the eye actually.
Check these educational sites and see which ones you like best, in case you are curious how you can "better yourself" :-)
http://www.karmasutrapictures.com/
http://www.goodtoknow.co.uk/relationships/259026/Kama-Sutra-positions
http://www.jijasali.com/kama.php?category=positions
http://www.spaceandmotion.com/kama-sutra-positions.htm
http://kamasutrafree.stores.yahoo.net/kamsutpos.html
Have fun!
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reader, imo32  +, writes (17 March 2009):
squatting does not stimulate the clitoris as much, but it does provide better thrust... which i find is more pleasurable for him... my boyfriend gets impatient if i take it slowly on top... you'll know by him which he prefers, quick movement or just slow sensual movement... or mixture between the two...
i was nervous about taking control before, but now i love bringing him to orgasm when i'm on top, don't feel like i'm 'just lying there' and letting him do all the work, y'know...
As for squatting up and down not looking as nice... i really doubt you bf will have a prob with how you look while you are pleasuring him like that!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): I'd really like to try it without squating down on my feet though. I just think it looks and will feel nicer.
Plus i dont think i'll be able to get much erm depth if im squatting down, cos then surely ill be higher up
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): I'd really like to try it without squatting down on my feet though. I just think it looks and will feel nicer. Plus I don't think I'll be able to get much erm depth if I'm squatting down, cos then surely I'll be higher up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): just get up there... and then figure out what feels good for you. why not look up sex positions online together during foreplay?? just for ideas.
when you're on top you can control the pressure against your clitoris, which may help you reach orgasm. but as for what to do when you're up there... that's really down to your preference... why not try straddling him while he's sitting on the sofa and while you're in a squatting position, hold onto the headrest and just use your legs to bounce up and down... set aside some time and swap from position to position, til you find the one that fits ;o)
have fun exploring!
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