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writes:Okay, here is the situation. My wife of nearly ten years fell in love with a woman after a period of time, where it was mostly just playful and some physical stuff. It was not intended and I always thought my wife was bi curious, but she obviously is bi sexual. The other woman proclaims to be gay, but throughout this relationship, which I completely knew about, she and I have developed feelings for each other. We haven't pursued anything physical because I am not sure how this whole thing would work out. Now we are in a situation where we are thinking about trying to make it work out between the three of us. Have any of you had this type of situation or are currently involved in this situation? If so - is it actually called something so I could research it and see if there is anything I could read about it?Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): I am now entering into a relationship of this type with my wife and her female lover. We all started off as just good friends, then confidants. My wife is not into straight sex in a big way but loves me and everything else, our friend has been hurt by guys and found bi sex with my wife fun. She still missed the touch of a male it was one night of relaxing and massarge that lead to more, the trust was there she trusts me and everything works well. My wife is committed to me as I am to her they get each others attention and I get as much sex with my wifes lover as i want! and actually I usually end up having sex with my wife too so it has improved our sex life. between us we have four children they are 2 yers to 16 years and just accept us as a three parent family its great
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (18 September 2008):
 Well, best wishes. Sounds like a very interesting triad, if you can hold it together and the girls do not begin to shut you out. To answer your question regarding research, you might try the words polygamy and romantic triad.
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reader, Tryingtobehappy +, writes (17 September 2008):
Tryingtobehappy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really appreciate all of your responses, even if the one who thinks it will not work out and someone will be hurt. I guess there is always that possiblity, but doesn't that possibility exist in any relationship. I know that it is far from normal and I truly think that without full disclosure and/or complete honesty it has no chance. I think the part that makes it more likely to be a happy ending is that we all got to know each other first and that we all really, really like each other. We spend a lot of time together and this weekend we were together nearly the whole weekend and all of us had the best time. Who knows if it will be forever, but how many relationships are forever? I think we will just continue living for the moment and maybe someday years from now I will come back on this website and tell you how great our lives together have been. I will continue to keep you updated and sincerely appreciate any and all advice.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (16 September 2008):
These days, my comment would have to be: "Why not?"
As long as the three of you remain happy and satisfied, then give it a go. As "BigSis" recommends, stay open and honest at all times and you may experience some ultimate pleasures under these circumstances. But it will likely be very difficult to hold together long term, which is unfortunately but very often true of many relationships.
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (16 September 2008):
 I don't see any reason why it can't work. Providing you hide nothing and if the three of you are completely honest with each other, then there shouldn't be a problem, just be happy and enjoy yourselves.
Share and share alike, I say.
What an exciting life you're going to lead, you lucky man you.
: )
Follow this link and learn of the do's and don'ts of a poly-amorous relationship and you'll be alright.
http://www.xeromag.com/fvpolyguide.html
BigSis
xXx
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reader, dolla18 +, writes (16 September 2008):
 hi,
yes what your experiencing is whats called a "polyamorous relationship"
it is a lot more common than what you might think to be honest. I did a little research on it a while back as it were something i stumbled upon from reading some one elses reply to another question.
you can make these relationships work but they need full commitment from the three of you an a lot of understanding. make sure you sit down and talk about problems that arise straight away, that way everyone knows where they stand at all times an hopefully stays happy with the situation.
good luck.....an do let us know how you get on.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2008): My boyfriends mums a lesbian. But its just her and her gf. My boyfs dad was hurt when she left him and they broke up. How do you cope? Honestly i dont think this will work. I mean someone will end up heartbroken
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