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writes:So I've been talking to this boy for about 5 months by text/phone calls.. we've been asking to meet up and that but it hasn't happened yet.. So yesterday we decided to meet up today and we was not really keen and I texted him this morning asking if we're still on and he hasn't got back to me all day and night.I don't want to text him or call him again as I don't want to seem too needy and annoying.. what do I do? I kind of like him :( thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2013): It's not going to happen. If you were meant to meet in person, it should have happened at least four months ago. Don't get caught up in this on-line garbage....There are way too many freaks out there who seem to have nothing better to do with their lives then be alone and carry on these endless conversations with people they have never met and will go on and on and on, but will disappear when the subject of getting together and meeting in person comes up.
Don't go after this person, don't text, don't email, nothing.
If you want to get involved with someone, then do it the right way... Connect on-line, exchange emails, talk to the person on the phone to and set up a day/time to meet face to face in a public place where someone knows where you are. If there is a connection, and the guy is interested in meeting you, he will meet in person. If it gets redirected and repeatedly put off, he's not what you are looking for, move on.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (23 January 2013):
 Hi,
I can understand the feelings of liking someone before you've met them (especially with 5 months contact), but the feelings are mostly fantasy. You can't really know who someone is until you meet them face to face. After you meet someone online, it's best to meet them in real life sooner rather than later.
I think he's either not interested or he's too nervous to meet up face to face. But either way, him not contacting you today was really, really rude. Totally unacceptable. He has some serious explaining to do!
Contacting him won't just make you seem needy and annoying, it'll make you seem desperate. Sorry to be blunt but it's true; he should be the one reaching out to you.
Don't text or call him. Just don't. Do other things, meet up with friends, go for a swim or a jog. If he is interested, let him get in touch with you and whatever happens, don't let it go back to texting and phoning with no plans of meeting up. But he better tell you how sorry he is, have a good reason and be begging for another chance to meet up!
In all honesty, I'd try and forget about him and move on. He sounds like he'll disappoint you again if you let him.
Good luck.
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reader, kenny +, writes (23 January 2013):
 i would refrain from texting him again to be honest, the ball's in his court now. If he dosen't come back to you just put it down to experience and move on, plenty more fish in the sea.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 January 2013):
 if you have been calling and texting for 5 months and live close enough to meet face to face without much effort and this is the first time you are setting up a meeting, he's not that into you.
move on.
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