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writes: I have recently split up with my boyfriend for the 4th time in the last 7 months. this time it is well and truly over cos ive realised i am woth more than that!Last sat night i went to a mutual friends house because he needed someone to talk to. my ex-boyfriend wasnt there but had gone out on the pull. my ex's mate told me that he has been attracted to me for quite a while but he didnt want to say anything because of my ex.I told him that i felt the same way but that i wasnt ready for a relationship - neither is he. we both agreed that we would be f*** buddies which is agreeable by both of us.now though, i ma confused. i am happy with the way things are between me and my friend but am also wondering what would happen if my ex finds out? does he have a reason to get mad at us? or are we entitled to do what we want? please help! xxx
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (15 June 2006):
 No he shouldnt be mad but you two obviously aren't finished with eachother if you stay in eachother's personal business seeing who can hurt who the most and the fastest. this whole thing is childish and you both need to grow the hell up and realize life is more than sex, deception and revenge.
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reader, lovinglyhoney +, writes (8 June 2006):
lovinglyhoney is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have just found out that my ex joined a sex site looking for women to have sex with. he found out that i have slept with someone else since we split up (although he doesnt know who) he thinks it was just a one night stand and he is not too happy. but is it not hypocritical that he has been looking for sex first and is giving me trouble for actually getting some...considering he was the one that broke up with me?!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2006): No your ex doesn't have a reason to be bad at you. It is widely apparent that ex's shouldn't date ex's friends, but the reason behind that is vague and mainly to do with ego/pride.
Personally, I wouldn't do it. Once a girl becomes my friend's gf, she automatically becomes my sister - even after they break-up. Of course, this differs for different people. Considering that nowadays, a "best-friend" is simply someone whom you spend the most time with, rather than someone who is deeply connected with you. [sigh]
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reader, Lostandalone +, writes (5 June 2006):
I think he does have a reason to be mad, I know I would. Thats his friend and for the most part the way me and my friends do it, you are off limits. There is no way this will sit well with your ex. Out of all the women in the world he would choose you and out of all the men you would choose him. Personally, I think it is wrong and you will have a problem with your ex. The relationship that you have with your ex is over don't ruin the one between him and his friend. Find someone else.
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