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writes:Hi. Im so confused right now. Me and my boyfriend had a pregnancy scare. We bought a test and we were both really scared. I love my boyfriend and he loves me and we do want children when we're older but we agreed that having a child now wouldn't be the best thing. We bought a clear blue pregnancy test and it came back negative. We were so relieved. We spent a few hours together ad then he walked me home (i have hay fever and it got really bad today so i had to go home and take my tablets) When he walked me to my door he asked me if i was alright and said that id been acting weird, i realised when he'd gone that i felt sad at not being pregnant, but i dont know why. Can anybody give me advice, i dont really know why im feeling sad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm on the pill and we did start using condoms when we first had sex but i never had an orgasm, i erm dried up but then one day i came up with the idea that maybe it's the condoms. We had sex without a condom and i had multiple 'fun times' lol. I was just so happy to be able to have that intimacy with my bf.
He is caring and he said no matter what he'd stay with me. I know im not ready for a child and i am not going to have one at my age. I just cant understand why i feel sad. And we have mutually agreed that until we're ready to have children we're not going to have sex unless he's wearing a condom.
It's like my mind is so relieved that im not because i know im way too young. God but my heart is just sad. I dont understand my feelings but i know ill get over it.
Thanks for your help lovey =D
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (4 June 2010):
 Maybe because you suddenly enjoyed seeing your boyfriends caring side and it made you feel sad.
Please don't have a baby so young, you have plenty of time in the future to live that experience. Enjoy being the age you are now and all the things you should be doing like going out with your boyfriend or your mates, going to college, maybe learning to drive.
There is so much to look foward to like your first job, your first holiday with your mates etc...If you have a child now, it will complicate your life and your boyfriend might not even stay with you.
If your going to continue to have sex, my advice would be to go to your local Connexions and get free contraception. Take your boyfriend with you so you can choose which is better for you both.
For all girls in your generation, it's never been easier to avoid unwanted pregnancy than now...you have access to help and information and all in total privacy...and yet we have the highest rate of teen pregnancies in the world, because many of those girls don't really think about the actual reality of having a child.
Do the smart thing, be responsible for your body and don't become another statistic in the vain attempt to keep a boyfriend.
AE x
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