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*jroller14
writes:My BF is hearing rumors from ppl about me and him and I'm getting sick and tired of it, and so is he.My BF and I were actually thinking about breaking up the other day because of it all. There just is to much drama. We decided to stay together and just ignore it but now they're getting ALOT worse and I don't know what to do anymore.I can tell it's really bothering him to. He said he has heard it from ppl on facebook, and I've heard it from ppl at school. What should we do.....Just keep ignoring it, or something else? Please help.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (25 February 2011):
What kind of relationship do you have if you are going to break up because some stupid person is spreading rumours about you? From what you wrote I understand these are rumours and nothing else. I mean none of you have a doubt about this subject. Then, who cares about what other people could think about you. In the end the people who really know you and your boyfriend won't believe these rumours neither.
Like Abella told you, there's someone out there trying to break you apart and you are about to please him/her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): this exact same thing happened to me, honey if they arent true put your head up and keep smilin, dont give that sad jealous individual what they want- a reaction from you and to cause pain. everyone loves a bit of gossip and im sure you would be the same but its funny how you never realise this untill youre on the recieving end.
stay stong and stay with your boyfriend as he seems to be trustworthy at this time and support each other.
hope you's are ok
xxx
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reader, Abella +, writes (25 February 2011):
 there is a vicious nasty jealous person out there, male or female, who wants to break you up. Watch for anyone male or female who flirts with one of you. Or an ex of one of you.
Someone close to one or both of you is doing this tp you.
If you really care about each other you will laugh off these childish attempts to
break up your relationship.
Temporarily close down your FB page and do not log in to FB again for three weeks. That way the person will be talking to the wind.
Walk out arm and arm. Hold hands in public. It will enrage the person targeting
But remember always to believe in yourselves. You know the truth about your relationship.
What other people want to think is none of your business. Let them worry about what they want to think because that is their problem.
Your issue is do you both truly care about each other?
Never let someone else determine the best course in your relation.
If you continue to care about each other, despite the anon poster/s , and you want to be together then stay together. Best wishes, Abella
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reader, missy_musk  +, writes (25 February 2011):
 Im sorry to hear that sweet. At whatever age we be, we don't like having to put up with and listen to malicious and often hurtful rumors. But im afraid the sad truth is, people do spread rumors and there really is not anything you can do to prevent it. Some people make up rumors because they believe that it is a 'cool' thing to do and because they often feel the need to be socially accepted within a society, for example at school. The best thing i can advise you to do as a couple is to stay strong and ignore it. It may take time, but people soon get bored and will move on. You are the mature person for not responding and you should continue to do this as you reacting in a negative way will only add fuel to the fire that is rumor. Please feel free to mail me at any time and do stay strong because you are better and more mature then they will ever be! xx
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