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writes:I went to my friend's house party and we all ended up taking copious amounts of drugs and alcohol. The usual cliché story, I ended up in bed with the housemate of my friend. And one thing led to another and we fumbled about and kissed and heavy petted each other till the early hours, only dry sex though. I knew she had a boyfriend but wasn't sure. The next morning I left the house party early because I got itchy feet, and she got my number from my friend and we relayed some friendly text messages. Finally, I got this message from "I know I shouldn't really say this, but I really enjoyed cuddles last night". I don't know what to say really cos she's in a relationship, and although I'd like to date her, only when her relationship status is clear. We 've only met once or twice so I don't know how I can humourously and cleverly approach the situation . Also, I would have preferred to be friends first or dated. What is the best way to find out what she wants, but also maintain cordial relations, take into account I'm going away for a couple of weeks on holiday so there would be a big gap between now and when I see her next.
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reader, TheBigVenti  +, writes (15 November 2008):
I'd wade it out, no doubt. Just keep talking to her, but keep your options open. If something doesn't happen between her and her boyfriend, it should probably drop on the priority list. Think of this: if she's doing this with you while in a relationship, whats stopping her from doing it again if in a relationship with you? It needs time and conversations before developing into anything. Good luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (15 November 2008):
Just be honest, you don't have to make it into a poem.
Just text her and tell her that you enjoyed them too but you don't want to be "the other man." Tell her that you want to see her again when you get back from your holiday but only if she is single.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2008): I think the best thing you can do is not to get involved unless she and her boyfriend break up. If you interfere then all hell could break loose and you could end up in a big mess and losing friends. Don't mention to anyone what happened because they don't need to know, however if they do figure it out then don't lie about it. If they do break up then go for it, but get to know her before you start a relationship.
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