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writes:I had been in a LD for 4 years. I had never been able to trust my bf 'cause I always caught him a lie. First, it was his ex-gf, he would not stop calling her, then I found emails from dating websites, and now he is exchanging txt. messages with a girl who has sent him pictures of her in bikini. I just confronted him and he got mad 'cause he says I am spying on him, and that he is not doing anything. He says that I should trust him and that I shouldnt be checking his emails and phone. He hanged up the phone with me and would not return my calls. he txt me "leave me alone".I know the answer of all of you is for me to leave him. But, I don't seem to be able to make it , I guess maybe I have such a low self esteem, and afraid of not finding anyone. At the same time, I love him, and I wanted to have a family with him and it is hard for me to accept the harsh reality.I am so depressed and crying all the time... I am desperate.. how do i cope with this pain...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2008): You are right, we are gonna end up telling you to leave him! He was doing things he shouldn't have, the reason he wants you to stop spying is so he can carry on doing as he is! Don't have a low self esteem, when people find out what he's like then it's him who's gonna be single, not you. Don't rush into having a family. Anyway you said it was a Long Distance relationship, and in my personal opinion they don't really work because of all the heartache of not seeing one another. You would be better off with someone closer to home.
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reader, tiamaria  +, writes (15 November 2008):
 ive had the same kind of problem,ive been with my man 10 months and ive just found out he has been talking alot to his ex,which he hid from me,plus ive found him on dating sites b4.i know how you feel,i have spoken to my man and he has changed his number so she cant get incontact not that it makes me feel any better,but hes trying.you need to be hard on him and tell him to cut all ties with her,if he dosnt do it he dosnt respect you orlove you the way you want him,you would be better off with out him,you will find someone who wont do this to you.good luck and all the best.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2008): Girl,my advice is:leave him alone don't waste your time with a guy like him,I'm sure you'll find another good guy someday.I lived this last year with my ex bf I had a long distance relationship with him and I found out he cheated on me with other girls and chatting with hot girls on adult websites,plus he was dating a girl when he was with me.Also he posted pics of his dick on the websites and I broke up with him cuz he was lying to me all the time and I don't love him now but I really hate him with all my heart. I couldn't trust him anymore when I found out the truth,I suffered a lot and got depressed.Long distance relationships doesn't work.That's the truth.
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