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writes:hi can someone give me sum advice!!!When i was 16 i met my boyfriend, he was 30. I have been with him since, i am now 20, soon to be 21. I have very strict dad, he knew i was seeing someone, but never met him. he'd kill him - he doesn not agree with age differences. anyway, my mum liked him... So anyway. For the last 4 or 5 months i have felt like i want out. i have become nothing but nasty, shouting all the time, making digs, so i have realised over the last few weeks, maybe i have grown up and realised that it's not going to be a fairytale ending. we have realised we want different things in life.. i want to one day get married and have kids, he says he doesn't want this. Last night we talked and said lets just be friends, we've been acting like friends more than anything else for the last 4 odd months, lets do this. thats fine, but what the hell is wrong with me? i tell myself i need to let go, and this is what i .. and he want.. but the minute we agree to end it, i think 'but i love him' and get upset. is it because we've been together 4 years? i have no problem being friends.. he is my best friend. i just can't imagine my life without him. are we doing the right thing??
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): You are only 20 years old! You have your entire life ahead of you! Of course leave this man. You have just began to live your life and don't waste it with a man that doesn't share the same future as you. He's 30. He is well aware of what he wants and what he doesn't want. Believe me he's not going to change his mind (trust me I know). As far as being friends with him, I would wait on that. You have invested 4 years with this man and you will have feelings for him for quite sometime. So constantly talking to him, seeing him casually and possibly sexually is only going to make things worse for you. I would cut all ties until I am able to talk to him on a friendship basis that won't cause me any undue pain and aggravation. I wish you the best and go out there and have fun. You only live once
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 October 2009):
You and he want different things compltetely. You want to marry and have kids, he doesnt. This relationship has to end. You actually don't have the same goals at all, and to be in a good relationship, you do need to have some goals that are the same, such as marriage and children. You ahve to end it and move on. Also, staying as friends may make it worse for you to get over him, so seriously consider that as well.
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