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writes:So I am 17 and my boyfriend is 19. A couple of nights ago me and my boyfriend slept together for the first time and the next morning I woke up before him and left. It was my first time but it wasn't for him. When I woke up I honestly felt like I had made a huge mistake, which is why I left without saying anything. Now since that night my boyfriend keeps texting me and telling me how sorry he is and that he truly believed that I wanted the same thing and that he never wanted to hurt me.Was leaving the wrong thing to do? What do I do now?
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reader, Dark_Storm  +, writes (5 June 2009):
 in those circumstances its hard to say what the right thing for you to do would have been...as im guessing u reacted totally on impulse....
many of us regret our first time and its natural to have doubts...
the best thing for you to do is talk with your partner about your feelings and the current situation and how you feel...by his reaction im sure hell be understandng.
by the sounds of it he really does care for you and his fellings are genuine.
i hope it works out ....
if you need anymore help feel free to drop me a line.
love always xxx
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (5 June 2009):
 No you werent wrong for leaving, you felt uncomfortable, so what else were you going to do?
But now, you have to face it. You have to tell your boyfriend how you feel, whether you want to end it or work it out is entirely up to you, but he at least deserves an explanation.
If you chose to stay in this relationship, tell your boyfriend that you don't want to have sex again for a while, until you are COMPLETELY sure you ready and can handle it.
Good luck
xx
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reader, bigin1986 +, writes (5 June 2009):
you should just talk it over with him and agree not to have sex again until you are both ready weather its 6 months or 6 years he needs to wait till you are both ready
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