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writes:hi everyone, i am 21 and have known my boyfriend since i was 15. Now we have been dating for 3 yrs. For some reason i have been having these feelings that he is hiding something from me. i would have never thought of this when i was younger, but now he wants to pursue our relationship even further and i just dont know what to do. i always feel like i am trying to find somthing wrong and even make up a reason to fight just because i have been having these feelings. sometimes they go away but then come on so strong. i need help and advice from other women. Reply to this Question
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (11 November 2009):
 I also forgot to add that you perhaps feel trapped. You've know him for so long and deep down you might think that you 'should' stay with him. You don't have to do that. It's ok to break away and be alone for a while. You have to do what will make YOU happy in the end, and not him or anyone else.
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reader, Lexie88 +, writes (11 November 2009):
Pancakes rule is right...it does seem like you're not too sure if you want to stay with him.If you are feeling like this then there is a reason for it. I think you need a bit of quiet time to try and find out what exactly is bothering you.I see two separate issues, you think he's hiding something from you and you also say that he wants to pursue your relationship even further...do you mean marriage?If I can tell you anything it's to trust your gut instinct, it's usually never wrong. It alerts you that something is up and that you should stop and think.Whatever you do, don't repress what you're feeling. Don't jump into something with him if you're not sure in the hope that things will be ok. Only do something if you are a 100% about it.I think it would be good for you to talk to someone older than you who is willing to listen and work through this with you. You need another person to help you see what is bothering you. You can't find a solution if you don't know what the problem is.If you don't have anyone, perhaps try and get all your thoughts on paper...it might help you figure out what it is exactly that is bothering you.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (10 November 2009):
 It doesn't sound like your sure you want to be with him, if this is the case and he wants to move forward, you shoud let him know how you feel so that he doesn't just get strung along.
Your probobly better off breaking up with him and finding someone else.
good luck
xx
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