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writes: I am a 20 year old male. I am can mastburbate in the normal way, but when it comes to having sex with my girlfriend everything goes limp. When we are messing around and foreplay it's rock hard, but as soon as a I take my trousers down it all goes wrong. Is this just a confidence issue????
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2005): Yes, it is a confidence problem. Maybe you should ask if you are circumcised.Good luck with that.
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reader, pops +, writes (29 June 2005):
you have to tell us. Only you know. Are you afraid of sexual intercourse? Fear of performance failure( Premature ejaculation)? Fear of Pregnancy? Fear that you will not be able to satisfy your lover? Each is a separate problem. At our age, you should be able to have 5 or more climaxes a day without breaking a sweat! So, have your Gf masturbate you to orgasm( manually, or orally) and enjoy the release. Then have her help you get that next erection. You may feel the need to relieve your bladder after the first orgasm. Do so. It will help you get a new erection and keep it longer. Pregnancy? I would hope you and your GF have taken steps to see that this does not happen. Using adequate birth control is your resonsibility, too. Condoms are the ticket, and keeps you from being surprised with that phone call that begins, " Guess What?" from your GF. You indicate you mess around and I must assume that includes touching and perhaps licking? I hope so. Any man who does not give great head to his lady will lose her to any man that does. Get busy, and give her a couple of orgasms orally before penetrating her with your penis. This will take the emotional pressure off you during vaginal sex. She is already happy because she has climaxed with you a couple of times, or more, and maybe you have already climaxed once or twice before getting down to business. Try having her be on top and lowering herself down on your penis. This allows you to relax every other muscle other than the PC's that help maintain your erection, allows you to caress her body, and clitorus, while she control the speed, depth, and duration of the penetration. let us know how this works pops
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