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writes: I hate to say this, and I'm probably one in several thousands, but I'm a male approaching 24 years of age and I'm still a virgin. I've not got a great deal of confidence when it comes to pulling women, even though I love them to bits. I've never been in a sexual relationship and the furthest I've ever got is the odd snog here and there. I'm not the best looking man in the world and I would class myself as being fairly quiet. I do however have quite a few friends, and have a reasonably good social life,as I go out most weekends, mainly to pubs but the odd club here and there as well. The thing is I never know what to say to women in social situations and most of the ones I like are either attached or just not interested. I hate to say this but I have just about given up as I feel somewhat embarassed.Any advice is appreciated.Thanks.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (2 July 2005):
You say you have a good social life - good! This means you will have the opportunity to come into contact with lots of women, as far as chatting up goes a sincere compliment goes a long way eg: I've been looking round and you're the best looking girl in here, can I get you a drink? This shows you're interested and also makes you appear confident which is a big bonus!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2005): There's plenty of time to figure things out. The good news is that if your keep being yourself, which may very well be slighty shy around girls, you will find someone eventually who is into that type of guy. The worse thing you can do is be someone your not. You'll only be able to keep this front up for a little while and then you may realise the girl never really like the true you anyway. Try hanging out with single, good girlfriends. Stay open to opportunitiesAnd your virginity may be a great asset towards other girls so let them know. Some girls will really respect that, or (better for you) take advantage of that.
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reader, pops +, writes (27 June 2005):
Don't treat them differently than you would a male friend. Ask a woman you are attracted to to join you in some hobby activity. Don't make it more than that. If the two or you get comfortable, it will be easier for you to ask her out on a " Date ". And, you will already know if she will go out with you. My wife asked me to attend a basketball game where she had free tickets. Neither of us like basketball, and as we talked in the stands, we found that we both liked pool. I asked her if she would like to watch the second half of the game, or retire to a local pool hall to play pool with me. We had a great time, and got to know each other much better. She still claims I beat her 7 games in a row, but that did not happen. She is a very good pool player, but claims I am the only man to beat her that many times in a row. B.S. But I loved her for the compliment. My wife is 15 years younger than me, and I could not believe that she had any interest in me romantically. I kept the dates platonic for awhile- longer than she wanted- until it became pretty obvious that I either kiss her, or she would be very hurt and insulted by my non-attention. Our romance began then, and we talked about the age difference a lot before getting serious. Stop making a mountain out of a molehill. Find some activity you have in common with the girl you want to ask out, and ask her to join you in that activity. I had a " Study date " with a girlfriend at the University Library, which was shortened shen she kept running her toes up my legs under the table.
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