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30-35,
*hinky
writes:this is basically a question for the men, although ladys your advice is Greatly appreciated as well. So ive had sexual relationships, with my current partner. Everything is going great, problem is that i dont get to see him to often because of my work and school.The other day masturbation came up in one of our conversations, and he -FLIPPED OUT.-ranting about the damage that it caused to his "manhood" , and that he felt offended by it. frankly i didn't think it would be a great deal.i happen to think that masturbation is perfectly normal, and quite healthy for you, even if you do have a partner.im not quite sure how to handle the situation.-Please help =/ Reply to this Question
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (27 April 2008):
He's crazy! Masturbation is normal for both men and women. I bet he relieves his self when he hasn't seen you in a while, so why should he want you to suffer? You should have the right to relieve yourself too! Since he knows you do it now, he should have you do it for him while he watches.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 April 2008):
 You damaged the fragile male ego. How could you possibly need anything else but the mighty male penis to satisfy all your sexual needs!
I think it is pretty safe to bet he doesn't see anything wrong with masturbating himself (and watching porn) and that a woman has to be pretty silly to be offended by that.
He probably has fairly conservative views in general, on the whole I wouldn't make to much of a deal out of it. If he masturbates himself, well then you are with a guy with rather dubious double standards. Make of that what you will.
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reader, salvation  +, writes (24 April 2008):
I would agree there is nothing wrong with it. You need to explain to him that it has nothing to do with his abilitises to please you or abilities in the bed room or his manhood sounds like he is a little insecure about it.
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reader, alan949 +, writes (24 April 2008):
I guess you can either:
A) Not talk to him about it
-or-
B) Talk to him about it and say your opinions on it which seem to be good and understanding
Not talking about it will be it so that this doesn't come up again obviously haha, and it seems like he might like that. Talking about it has a slight chance of him being more comfortable or somethin like that, but I'm not totally sure... As a guy myself I wouldn't really want to talk about it, even if it isn't really an important subject. Guys tend to be sensitive on this subject for the most part. There's no real helping that though =/
Hope this gave you some insight or ideas or help in general haha :)
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