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writes:I had a love marriage with my school + college friend.We were madly in love when we got married.But after marriage I started to get some strange feeling, my husband loves me but we didn't had any physical relationship. I tried to initiate sometimes but couldnt make him do it.Then I thought might be its his proffessional stress because of which he is unable to concentarte on me. I tried to speak openly with him , he said its because of stres and his tiredness. But as months passed I felt there may be some other reason.One day after almost 9 months of our marriage, I forced him to speak and he said he feels I am not attractive enough. He loves my nature but not my body. He never gets enough attraction from me to initiate any physical activity. I was devastated and shared with him the pain which i feel. After that he has started pretending and tries to kiss and snuggle me but not more than that and moreover i could feel the disinterest in his actions. I love him very much and want to shower my love on him like every other normal married couple. I can't get beautiful or more attractive now.I have tried to seduce him in every way possible. What should I do now, please help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): Hi!!Thanks for the answers...I asked him this question of being gay.....but he confessed that he is not and I do believe him and regarding me...I am not that kind of pretty or beautiful... but not ugly, am smart and confident and have strong proffessional career like him. Figure wise ok.....working very hard to shed some few pounds...thinking that might help.Once i had a very open discussion with him and he said...he loves me but for having a physical relationship started,i am not that attractive or appealing. Every married girl in this world is not extremely beautiful....does everyone face this or my case is unique?What should i do?please help me. Its almost a year after m marriage and its getting on my nerves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): Have u ever considered him maybe being gay? In love it is normal to feel attracted to your partner, looks should not be an issue at all. So I feel it is a bit odd he doesnt feel attracted to you.
However, that he marries you purely for who you are, and not your looks is something very very good though! Not many men are like that, most are about looks and sex, but he is clearly not.
Still, physical contact should be a part in your relationship. How would you describe yourself physically? Maybe there are some things u could change about your life style to attract him more.
I personally believe real beauty comes from within, and I am glad he loves that beauty. It takes real love to love somebody for who they are. Physical contact is just a chemistry of the body after all, but it surely is a nice thing ;), so maybe we can figure out a way to fix that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): If you can end this marriage I would. He doesn't love you, he has married you as a friend, and to have a cook and housekeeper. In may countries you can have the marriage annulled as he has not consummated the act of sex.
He could be homosexual, or simply not into sex.
You deserve a full and fulfilling marriage and this includes a full sex life.
This is difficult, but living for the next 20 or 30 years this way will be hell. Good luck, life will get better!
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