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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello, Aunts!I've had an affair with a married man for over a year now. At first, I was swept off my feet by this man, whom I later found out was married. However, I stayed as he narrated the stories of his failing marriage and his impending divorce. Since, even after a year, he's not taking any effective initiative to annul his marriage, I've decided to leave him and start life afresh. I've spoken to him about my decision. The issue is that he NEVER LEAVES! Some way or the other, he tries to patch up despite I tell him that there would be no change in my decision. I've been subjected to severe depression because of this man, but. I'm stronger now and can handle this. I've learnt that mistakes must be rectified if there's some possibility. I can clearly see a huge possibility of undoing the wrong. Could you suggest some ways regarding how to keep him at bay so that he can't pester me anymore?Thanks in advance!Please, don't be judgemental because I've had a fair share of them.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (26 July 2017):
 You give him a final warning, and then you tell his wife. You didn't know he was married at first, and that's on him. It's the best and healthiest thing for you to get away from him, as the relationship isn't a healthy one. He's coming after you like a junkie goes after heroin, as married affairs often take on that very addictive quality due to its illicit nature and lack of reality present in regular progressing relationships.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2017): Is he stalking you, showing-up uninvited, appearing at your work-place? Hounding you at every turn? Get an order of protection. File a police complaint.
Blocking his number isn't effective, you'd have to change your own. Change your locks if he has a key. Call the police when any man insists on coming to your home and refuses to leave.
He can't afford the scandal or to be arrested. He'll take you seriously when you become serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, for the suggestions. He's lives in my vicinity and pesters me physically, over social media and also phones.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 July 2017):
 Everything that Code Warrior said, plus- you can tell him that if he bothers you just once more , you'll go straight to his wife and spill the beans to her. And to his parents too ( considering the tightness and importance of family ties in India, this is a serious threat ).
Now, you would not do that for real , probably, in order to not damage your own reputation- but, he cannot know that for sure, can he ? I think that would be enough to scare him into staying away from you for good.
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