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writes:I am 34 single been in a few bad relations and have always been dumped. After 4 years I recently met this man online and he started off with lies. It turned out he was married with a Pico and he says it's his conscience which made him speak the truth rather than my pestering. Anyway he promised a lot and after 6 months he suddenly asks me not to message at night and doesn't respond for a week and says he will tell me later but when we talk he avoids the issue. I have caught him cheating with others and also wamted to end it but he kept saying he needs me. He also cursed me saying God will punish me etc. I'm very depressed. Please help
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reader, Blueeyes2121 +, writes (26 December 2017):
 Im sorry you are going through a hard time.
Dating can be rough.
Here is tough love.
He is married. He is wrong. He is a jerk.
I recommend block his #, then delete his #. Delete all his texts, photos etc.
Go do something fun, you deserve someone dedicated to just you! F him - dont accept “sorry, ill leave her, I need you” He is wrong!
Hes married. You can do better, you will do better.
Good luck - I hope things get better.
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reader, holeymoley  +, writes (26 December 2017):
 What he 'needs' is a big fat 'Fuck off'. Don't go down that path with a married man. In person, on line it makes no difference it is a recipe for disaster, that much you can count on. Cheaters, men and woman, are master manipulators to get all it is to satisfy their own selfish needs. Why do you want to be that type of person? Nobody likes them or it, even cheaters don't like being cheated on. Next to domestic violence, cheating is the lowest of the low. Nothing to look yourself in the mirror and me proud of.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 December 2017):
 Op, honey
He is the MARRIED person here. He can not declare whom God will punish and whom he won't.
Block him, cut all contact. You already know he is married - THAT should tell you he has NOTHING to offer you. He is cheating with other women as well, which again should TELL you that this is NOT a good man.
There is no future here, OP. NONE. If he was serious about you he wouldn't stop talking to you.
His wife caught on and now he is fighting for her NOT to leave HIM.
He doesn't want to divorce her.
He is full of empty promises. Words are CHEAP, OP
ANYONE can SAY things - it doesn't make those words true.
When someone's actions AND words don't match up - it means they aren't serious and they are LYING to you.
Married men (and married women) who cheats are full of lies. They don't JUST lie to their wife/husband - they LIE to everyone.
YOU are better off without this guy.
NEXT time you talk to a guy and feel a connection, if he LIES about being married CUT him off before getting involved. You are simply too old to NOT use some common sense when it comes to relationships.
Having an affair with a married man RARELY end in a "Happily Ever After" because there is deceit, lack of truth and honesty from the get-go.
If you are worried about God punishing you - then START walking a better path. Chasing after married men - MEN who have committed themselves in front of God to another woman - it needs to stop. You need to put a higher value on yourself than to be some married man's floozy/mistress.
You have ALREADY wasted 6 months of your life on this LOSER - now is the time to stop, rethink your life and your path.
If you are a Christian and go to church, maybe go talk to your pastor to get your head on straight.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (25 December 2017):
 His wife probably started to suspect he was cheating on her.
You seem upset that you caught him cheating with others, hey, you have no right to get upset at that because you are helpng him cheat on his wife.
he is only using you, as for him saying he needs you .... heh, ask him what he needs you for that he cant get from his wife.
You need to end this, while you are playing around with married men your will never get over your depression.
If you can afford some counselling I would strongly suggest you have a look at the services available to you, you need some help working out why you are attracted to the wrong sort of me ... its a bad habit and you need to kick it.
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