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*izzybeth01
writes:About three weeks ago I took a pregnancy test that came back positive. My ex and I broke up about 9 months ago after dating for 3 years. We still see each other at least once a month and generally spend a couple of days together. Now that I'm pregnant we don't know what to do. he wants to be a good father but he's also not sure if he wants to get married just because I'm pregnant. We live far away from each other and being together would involve one of us moving...complicated. He's just graduated from college and has a stable job. I'm still in school and have a long way to go. If we didn't get married, I would be a single mother with no way to take care of my child. I care deeply for this guy and believe that i could fall in love with him again. Alot of time has past and I have been in therapy. My life has changed and I feel like I have become a much better, healthier person than i was 9 months ago. I want the chance for a family but the prospect of divorce scares us both. I guess a part of me just wants him to marry me, and love me and this baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): I think one of you should move closer. If he wants to be involved in the child's life, that's wonderful. Start from there. If things between you to grow, then maybe marriage is the next step, however, you should not do so until you feel sure about it. In the meantime, try being friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): I think you already made the right decision when you used birth control.
Now I say stick to your guns and have an abortion while the pregnancy is still very early. It's a difficult and painful thing, but so is every other possible option you have now.
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reader, Lizzybeth01 +, writes (17 December 2008):
Lizzybeth01 is verified as being by the original poster of the question this question is posted for a friend of mine, I have my own situation that's somewhat similar to this, but hers is more complicated. Any advice would be helpful!
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