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writes:I know my guy loves me. We have been going out for a while. In the beginning of the relationship, we both kept saying "I love you" non stop. But now a days, I'm the only who says it, and when I do, all he does is agree. Am I working myself up over nothing? Reply to this Question
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reader, wildchica5687 +, writes (11 April 2009):
wildchica5687 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's funny to see that I was worried about this not to long ago. But now a days, we both say "I love you (name)" so many times, it's not even funny. And I can definetly feel it. :)
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (18 December 2008):
 Well it still won't go that way! Just copy and paste, or type that enitre link with all the other stuff into your brwser.
http://www.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3dsO_KILnJdHw%26amp;fmt%3d18A&fr=chr-ppal
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (18 December 2008):
Sorry for the blooper but the link says Maliformed Video URL. I tested it again and went back to find the real thing. It's a short Comedy Vid about how hard it is to say I LOVE YOU.......And the misconceptions and perseptive views of those who hear those 3 little words or THINK that is what they hear.
http://www.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3dsO_KILnJdHw%26amp;fmt%3d18A&fr=chr-ppal
I hope it works this time! *LOL*
Blessings,
Blue_Angel
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (17 December 2008):
The newness had started wearing off or perhaps he has changed his mind about how he feels. Some guys aren't really into saying I love you all the time. The feeling of love is so great in the beginning because everything is new and exciting. In time however, if you are the only one who is still saying those special words, chances are he doesn't feel the same or is TAKING YOU FOR GRANTED
Remember that love comes in all forms. Sometimes the love we want just doesn't grow into what we would like. That love either gets transferred to someone else or it gets demoted to a less personal kind of love. One phrase can sometimes tell it all. I LOVE you BUT I am not IN LOVE with YOU.OH how I HATE THOSE WORDS! *LOL*
For now I would just try to relax and take each day as it comes. Try to focus more upon your own feelings about yourself. Do something to keep the thoughts about him from consuming your days and nights. Keep BUSY! If you stay busy and spend less time focusing on him and telling him that you love him, he will notice!
Ever heard this statement. Sometimes LESS IS MORE! When you give yourself more love and do things for you, it shows him that you care about yourself too. In spending less time putting all of your time and energy into loving him, it will have him wondering if you don't care anymore. He is going to wanting to find out why you are changing and if he is loosing you. It will definantely get his attention!
Perhaps he really knows you DO LOVE HIM! Being taken for granted is an horrible way to live a realationship. Don't
let your feelings of love keep you from expressing your feelings of displeasure about his withdrawn attitude. Men sometimes feel attacked when you question them too much, so you must handle any questions you need to ask with care. You do have to be prepared to accept his attitude if you choose to stay in the relationship, if it turns out it's just part of his personality to be this way.
Some guys go thru what is called a HOT and COLD phase. Constantly changing back and forth, being inconsistant in his feelings toward you. Perhaps going one way today and another tomorrow. He behaves capriciously and is often a hard man to trust. Men are duely noted for this type of behivour in many instances. Some view this as a MACHO thing.
*Just a note... Sometimes it's the woman who takes on this role but in general it's a man's place. It depends upon the personalities of the person's involved.
I would suggest that you truely slow down on the I LOVE YOU'S and take a step back. Allow him to take the lead and let him STEP UP to you. Allowing this will put him in the place that men ideally want to be. They want to be the ones to usually set the pace for the relationship without feeling crowded or pressured to feel something before they really do. The other thing is letting them take the time to feel love and take their time in saying it, because when they feel it and say it, they want it to be so! They want to know when they tell you those 3 little words that it's FOR REAL. Woman are different from men basically and sometimes they give off that I am too needy feeling. Some guys will do this too. It makes a man uncomfortable to feel like your happiness all depends upon him. Especially if he isn't on the same page are you are!
For some LOVE doesn't come easy, for others it's lOVE at first sight, but however it comes,let it come natural and as slowly as it needs to become the best love it can be.
On the lighter side........
Go to the nearest mirror and say these words..............
paying close attention to your mouth.....................
OLIVE JUICE
and SMILE! Cause GOD LOVES YOU!
Then watch this video cause it shows just how perception can change the meaning of LOVE...What you hear and see isn't sometimes what you get. Sometimes you even get more than you bargained for.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sO_KILnJdHw
OUCH!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): ok first of all you should talk to him about this it could be he loves you but got tired of saying it all the time or it could be he feels dif now...so that's why its important to get it out express how you feel and see what his feelings are about the situation...but...when you ask him if he gets mad..avoids the question and doesn't want to talk about it..or blames you those are def red flags and you should get rid of his ass...in my opinion....just don't let him play you for a fool...with guys you should always be suspicious
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