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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): Some people just give up and believe the other one is fine with it. Let your partner know how you feel so you can realize if you can work it out (because you need her cooperation and effort) or give it up. But, if there is someone else. . .
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 March 2010):
 Try to fall in love with her again. After 21 years everything is faded and you need to put the spark back into your marriage.
Go on a holiday together for a start.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (28 March 2010):
 Have you talked to a marriage counselor? It really could help... they're trained to deal with this situation and they see it all the time. I'm not "passing the buck" and don't mind helping you but I feel like this situation lends itself to the experts. I'm sure that a counselor would have some ideas... just shop around and be picky... there are some good ones out there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): Have you tried to put the spark back? Take her out on a 'date', have some fun together, remember why it was you got together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): Have you talked to your wife about your feelings? You need to be honest with her. Then go from there.
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