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writes:I have been working with someone for the past 4 years and recently he told me he was in love with me. I always thought we were close but I never knew he had these feelings. Now that he has confessed to me. Only one problem...He is married and so am I. He wants to have a sexual affair but I am not sure I can handle that. He said he is not leaving his wife and I don't plan to leave my husband but I am still intrigued. I am torn because we are coworkers and he is all I have been thinking about now. I am not sure what to do about this. Should I go ahead and do it? Or should i save myself the heartache?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): i think you already know what you are going to do. in the end please know this: you will lose everything. and you will only have yourself to blame for the mess you would have created. and don't think your hb will not find out. he will get a huff if you are giving it away. trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): No, please use this opportunity to work on your relationship with your mate. Work on seducing your mate daily and bring in more romance to inoculate against these unwanted connections.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): GO for it, honey, you only live life once!
And well if you want to destroy your life and other and live with regret for the rest of it then yes by all means go for it.
GrimmReality and Ask oldersister pretty much said everything I would have + more so I 2nd (or 3rd?) their views.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (19 June 2009):
 Nothing good will come from this, and you cant find love in your marriage if you are looking for love outside of it. Please consider that if you do it, you are destroying two other peoples lives for no reason...your husband and the other guy's wife. It is a selfish act that no one comes back from...you will always be known as a cheater! Not to mention your job...Have you any idea how hard it will be to get another job right away in this economy?I'm sure you aren't an astronaut Because eventually this will cause conflict at the job, then someone who may be offended by the rumors that will surely begin and go to Human resources and get your ass fired. I sure as hell would!Wanna go to another interview and choke when you are asked why you left your last job? "Because I screwed a co worker"Looks good on a resume of someone who works at MacDonalds for the rest of their life!Think about it if you do it...but you will only thinking about your own selfish ness and not about your vows.Because they will find out...you two work together, so its only a matter of time.. And think how bad it will be when your hubby finds out...cancels your bank accounts...etc...getting tested for STDs...because if he cant trust you with your pussy you cant be trusted with HIS MONEY! And then he will be within his rights to kick your ass out of the house, and tell your family, your friends, kick your other guy's teeth in while you sob "This isn't what I signed up for".Marriage is work...Get a clue!But by then there will be no sympathy for you...you will have spent your capital on the lies associated with it...because surely you aren't honest with your husband as it is...You better think real hard about this...and while you are at it, have some dignity and get into marriage counseling.I have nothing personal against you... I am being harsh because I want you to understand that if you spread your legs for this guy you are opening yourself up to much more than his dick...you are opening yourself up to a life of needless pain being wrought on innocent people caused by you.So there is the rest of your life if you choose to cross the line. I hope you will exercise some common sense here and think about somebody other than yourself! If you gave a tenth of the energy concentrating on your marriage that you spend thinking about a guy who wants to fuck you and not leave his wife, you would never have arrived here
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