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writes:im recently married and i do love my husband more than anything, he has just started to work away but i cant stop thinking and lusting after someone else, i dont know what to do as he knows how i feel and he wants it to. should i just for fill my lust for him and keep it to myself but what happens if i want more after that. what do i do? please help me i can stop thinking after him. Reply to this Question
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reader, freelancephoto  +, writes (7 December 2012):
To those who accuse you of not loving your husband, they obviously have never been in a similar situation or they're liars. Relationships take work from both husband andwife, etc. There is definitely a serious lack of excitement in your marriage, and perhaps both of you have grown complacent and are not putting forth the effort to keep the love alive. Your husbands not giving you that and you are lusting after another man so you are not wanting to put forth the effort. In all honesty, your husband needs to know how you feel in order for you both to fix what's missing. Dig deep and look at the big picture. The grass is definitely not greener on the other side like we want to believe it is.
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reader, redvelvet2000 +, writes (29 April 2009):
i must say don't feel bad or should i say join the club.i have almost the same situation and a single friend whom i can talk to about anything say its nornal.she feels you can even love two men at once.huh!! my husband is so loving and careing a great provider, we've been married for 14 years since i was 20. he feels people shouldn't cheat and of course i feel the same if im on the short end of the stick. i just went for it now my mind stay on this other man. i met him in mid/late 2007. i almost feel adddicted even to the point that if its not him it might be someone else just because i cant sit still now. is this bordem or what.i feel like i missed out on dateing or some parts of my life and being a single adult or somethins.but!!!!! i dont want to loose my husband.
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reader, firechicky  +, writes (17 October 2008):
Hey,I am to in the same spot as you and no matter what people say your not wrong for feeling that way.I dated this guy 17 years ago and he was the best!! we broke up because he cheated and I ended up moving on and met my husband I have now.We have been together for 18 years and he is a great guy,but more recently,I started talking to my ex again.I have not see n him in 19 years but so much of my herat still loves him. I am going to see him maybe in December when I travel for work and all I can think about is holding him and touching him.My marriage is o.k but I find to mnay wives and husbands are not appreciated for what they are and I work 2 full time jobs pretty much,cook,clean and always have time for friends and famly and never hear thanks.I am spunky and I just miss that" spark" and my ex has always had this way of bringing me to life and I miss him alot.He is all I can think about,so don't feel bad for lusting,if we had everything in a marriage,we wouldn't have to look any further.I am just thrilled I am not alone,take care!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): SORRY,NO KIDS,THEN WALK....
You really don't love your husband, let him find Mrs. Right, because as of now, you are not her...Someone will love him like he loves you...no one can say they love someone and lust for someone else..please. Your a newlywed couple! For God's Sake Move on! Get Out!
Let the poor guy find his True Love....and start his Dreamfamily..Ouch! Now if this hurts you ..you need counselling and find out what is missing in your relationship..before you go and mess something worth saving..I think you still love your husband you are young and maybe self-esteem issues.. please give your marriage a chance xoxxoxo
Listen to these people, these are wise people, giving you advice, I couldn't agree more, with them. Do check all the postings on cheating....GOOD LUCK in your DECISION!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): I agree with rcn. Simply put...if you "loved your husband more than anything", you could never possibly even dream of lusting after another man. Your husband would be the one you desired and wanted to be with wholly and exclusively. It sounds like perhaps, you married a man you don't really value asd you don't appreciate what you share with him. I don't think you have the staying power to be a committed, honorable wife to your husband. There is a lot of room in your life for developing yourself, and maturing your worldview by learning what the true meaning of 'love, devotion and marriage' really is. Stop and think about this. Good luck and I wish you the best
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reader, rcn +, writes (16 January 2008):
 Go ahead and do it. Afterward realize you just put your personal desire infront of your marriage, your husband and the love you claim to have for him.
If you love him more than anything, then you'll protect the relationship you have with him and your marriage at all costs. Giving into desire says, you should have said not right now, instead of I do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): I would suggest that you go over all of the postings about "cheating" and read how your current thoughts are what DESTROYS families, lives, friendships, futures, innocent peoples confidence and self esteem, finances, dreams, stability, LOVE AND REALITY.
Try that and then decide.
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