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writes:I am married for 6 years now but been with my husband for 11 years, including the steady years, this past 2 months when i confronted my husband about his being always out of the house and has no time for me anymore... he suddenly burst out and told me he wanted out of marriage,,,, i dont know how to react or say... but i ask him why and what are his reasons, why did it came to this point and that what made him decide such things... he just said he doesnt love me at all even at first... i dont believe on what he said... please help me lighten my mind and help me in my decisions... guide me in what to do... thanks... and more power Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2007): Hi, Let him go...if he can burst out saying something as profound as that let him get on with his pursuits, if he wants lust, tantalisation whatever you want to call it, count yourself lucky you didn't spend 20 years trying to be the dutiful wife, turning a blind eye. I was with my husband for 11 years, he used me, cheated on me during my pregnancy and so on with one night stands. Apparently all my fault for not being a good enough wife. He was selfish, arrogant and self-righteous and he lost the best thing that ever happened to him, if he had just been better, more committed and not been so pathetic and lapsed into easy street. Don't fight it, let him go. Love yourself, you don't need his love, he seriously doesn't deserve you. This is coming from single Mum, with very little money and no regrets and getting rid of a fraud in my life.
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reader, ilovemyhusband  +, writes (14 April 2007):
 My husband just recently pretty much told me the same thing! He has bipolar and has been dealing with depression and looking for jobs, so I never knew anything else was bother him, until he tells me that he still loves his ex. I am so heart broken and I don't know what to do either. I asked if he ever loved me and he says yes, but that he loves her more. To me, we have alot more than him and his ex has ever had, but I don't know. Anyways, I am sorry for you as well. Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2007): you are still young , let him go.
Most men are not as brave as he is , he did not string you
along, he told you the truth, he says he does not love you
and that should be all the answer you need.
I don't believe when he said he didn't love you at first , he
didn't marry you for money did he?. of course he loved you
before, but that has nothing to do with what he just told you
now. Things change , people change.
I may be wrong , but could he be having an affair?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2007): I've been married 6years and have been board to death with my husband. I told him that i loved him, but am not IN love with him. I'm not gay, i didn't cheat on him. He just boar me. Could it be you two are missing that passion? Or he has some other person on the side. Sry about that.
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reader, penta +, writes (13 April 2007):
 I don't know whether this is your situation, but a school friend of mine did this to his wife of 5 years (they had kids, too). Two years later he came out (he's gay). He'd been pretending the entire time to love his wife because he wanted to be "normal."
Is there any chance that your husband might be in this situation? If so, let him go as fast as you can. You deserve to be with someone who loves you, and he isn't that person.
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