New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login245057 questions, 1084625 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

Married 5 years now. Is this relationship still intact? Worth saving? He's coming home soon.

Tagged as: Breaking up, Faded love, Family, Health, Long distance, Marriage problems, Troubled relationships, Trust issues<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (9 November 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 9 November 2011)
A female South Africa age 41-50, *lassic events writes:

Hi guys, i am so confused and sad.

My husband has been outside the country for almost 3 months now.

He rarely calls. When he does it is usually for short time. He is so jealous, if i tell him i hav gone out with lady friends, he calls and shouts at me, accusing me of cheating.

And then ignores my messages.

He doesnt want me to go out with friends, even to visit my own relatives, he is always suspicious and i always feel afraid to tell him i have gone shopping. It pains me and i feel abused by his threats and suspicions.

He doesnt send emails regularly, only when i send, sometimes he doesnt reply. If i want to chat he says he is busy and ignores or goes offline. If i ask him about it he says he is too busy or does not have time to chat.

I am so sad and lonely. Does it mean he communicates with someone else and maybe doesnt love me anymore. We have been married for 5 years now with one daughter, he will be coming home by end of month. Guys is this relationship still intact??

View related questions: jealous

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A female reader, Eyespy17 United States +, writes (9 November 2011):

It sounds like he is not interested in having a loving healthy marriage but you are married so you should wait until he comes home and try to have an adult sit down calm conversation and find out why he's been behaving this way. Was he jealous and mean like this before he left?

<-- Rate this answer

A reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2011):

No

He doesn't even sound like he is IN this relationship!

I would hazzard a guess that he is accusing you of what he is doing himself,it happens alot.

I would wait till he's home and then insist you sit and talk, because you two are partners,adults with a child, he's not your father and you a naughty teenage daughter.

Once you have got your feelings across,face to face, then decide what you want to do.

Good luck

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "Married 5 years now. Is this relationship still intact? Worth saving? He's coming home soon. "

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.0468562999958522!