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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:What's wrong with me? Every time a guy seems interested in me I get really shy and self conscious. It's like I go from being confident and independent to completely timid. And if a guy looks at me too long I automatically blush. Also, if a guy gives me a compliment the conversation immediately gets awkward. What can I do to stop this? This keeps me from getting a bf and I really want one. I just don't know how to control these automatic responses. Help!
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reader, FrequentFlyer  +, writes (8 October 2009):
 Haha, The good old days of innocence! I love it. Everyone goes through this kinda stage at one point in their life and sometimes it can take a few years to even calm it out. Don't worry about it too much. It's all about your experiances with the opposite sex and how you can be confident in certain things. When I was younger I really hated not having confidence to keep eye contact with girls and I couldn't even drag myself to start talking to a girl I didn't know at all. The best thing to do is just to start feeling confident in your ability to change everything that you don't like about yourself.
Really motivate yourself one day and take it all one step at a time. Next time a guy looks at you, keep the eye contact and really challenge yourself to keep it going. Don't worry about looking stupid at all because you never know, they might just be your next partner and you might enjoy what is to come from it. As for the awquardness of the conversation when a guy compliments you, just relax and take it on the chin.. Say thankyou and rely on him to take the conversation to another place or another level. It's all about stepping out your comfort zone (believe me I know it aint simple) but it is definitely possible. It just takes time. Goodluck with it though!
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