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male
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anonymous
writes:Hi, I have a major problem. I work for a major national service, at a major location, I don't really want to say more than that though.Recently we took on some college students on work placement, they are there one day a week. Last week was the first week and I was asked by my supervisor if I would work with two girls, Lucy and Kate and show them how we work.As soon as I started with them, I was attracted to Lucy, like a lot, I fall into that trap easily, but this felt different.As the day went on me and Lucy were getting on really well she picked up the job quickly and we were laughing and joking together all day from 9 til 5, we even sang together and there was lots of smiling and eye contact. At 5 when we left I took the two to the main entrance and Kate was getting a lift and she offered Lucy a lift, but Lucy said to her 'no it doesn't matter i'll go with dean to the bus station', it would have been easier for her to get a lift though.We had to get one bus into the bus station where we both got seperate buses home, and on this first bus we had to stand up at the front quite close together, we were still making each other laugh all the way.At the bus station I said to her 'which stand do you get your bus at' but she didn't know, she'd told me which bus it was and I seen it and told her it was there, we said our goodbyes until next week, and as I walked off to my bus stop, I looked back at her and she looked back at me. Her bus went passed me and she waved and smiled to me.Ever since then I have not stopped thinking about her and everyone at work knows it and is winding me up about it, in a good way.But my real dilemma is:She is 18 and im 20, thats not the main one.The main things are she has a boyfriend and I really want to tell her how I feel (I know its soon, but Ive let too many girls come and go in my life without saying how I feel), But im scared if I tell her so soon she might be put off coming back to do her placement, ruining her course and that would all be my fault, which isn't good when i'm supposed to be professional.Should I tell her straight how I feel? Just carry on like last week and let us get to know each other more?OrWait until she has finished the course and tell her then on facebook, which she has added me on?Or should I do something else.Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): I think you should let her make the first move since she has a boyfriend and you need to respect that. From my standpoint, you've made it pretty clear you are interested. After she leaves, she will be able to contact you through Facebook if she wants. If she doesn't break up with him, that is her decision and you will need to come to terms with that and move on. If you go out with her at this point, you will both be going behind her boyfriend's back, and you don't want to start out a relationship that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): Near the end of the placement ask her for a date (to occur after the end of the placement) or ask her out for coffee.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (14 December 2009):
 I agree, you should wait. It would be really awkward to have to work with her if she does reject you. You'll get your chance to tell her if you feel it's best, but you should definitely wait.
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reader, tired of dating  +, writes (14 December 2009):
Awe, don't be affraid, life is about taking chances. Ask her if she is interested in going out to dinner or a movie with you. If she says no because she has a boyfiend, ask her jokingly if she will let you know when she is single. More than likely she will giggle. Then say, ok, well please keep in mind that when your done with your boyfriend, there is a man waiting for you. On the other hand, if she say's yes to the date than your in there!!!! Good luck!
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reader, kissmenow  +, writes (14 December 2009):
wait til the end of the placement... its still early, wait and see how things go. Also, you will have to see her..so if you tell her- whatever her reaction -it will make things awkward. there is a time and place for everything. wait.
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