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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have a problem... I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years and everything is great except that I've developed a major crush on one of his best friends... they met a couple of years ago and my boyfriend told me that he thinks I'm hot (apparently he tells him that stuff often) and he and I have hung out a few times (with my boyfriend there) and there is definitely some flirty chemistry there... he is very sexy and attractive and he has an amazing body, with ripped muscles and a gorgeous smile... I can't get him out of my head for the past few months... I won't cheat on my boyfriend because I love him to death but I really need to know how to get over this crush! It's driving me mad!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): I had a crush for ages but it faded, you get over them, so what if he's attractive, that's just being shallow however gorgeous he is! What about your boyfriend? Remember why you fell in love with him and that'll put that crush to sleep. Are you missing out in intimacy with your bf so you're craving some more attention? This is helpful to know.Are you seriously considering ending with your bf for a flirty few months? If so then re post and I will try to help again.Maybe he's just a flirt, does he have a girlfriend?-feel happy he thinks your hot, but feel happier that only your boyfriend can have you. Six years is a lot and if he is a true friend to your bf then he would not want to ruin what you have together that is clearly so special.Hope this helpsizi
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): Crushes are annoying. I have one at the moment too. Just realise that what you feel is nothing more than empty infatuation. You're obsessed with this guy because of his looks and the novelty factor - he's new, fresh and exciting. But what you have with your bf is real. Are you seriously going to throw away 6 good years with your bf over some pretty-looking guy who you DON'T love - and stop lying to yourself, deep down you know you don't. My advice is as follows - the best way to get over a crush is to cut contact as much as possible with the object of yout obsession and focus on your existing relationship. Passion burns itself out very quickly. A broken heart can take much longer to heal.
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