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anonymous
writes:I am/was loving this girl since a lot of time. My life was dry before she came into my life... but when she did, it was like a breadth of fresh cool air blowing by your face you just washed with water. She's stunningly beautiful and I kept loving her a lot day by day and I still love her badly. Unfortunately as nothing is 10/10 in life, I came to know that she's married. She's just 19. I was shocked and devastated and depressed. God! I cannot describe the feeling in words... it was so hurtful. I am not able to understand how to deal with this feeling. I consulted a few close friends of mine. All of them say the same thing - just be away from her... and that she's happily married. I KNOW WHAT TO DO ALRIGHT! But I am not able to bring myself to do it. It is so damn hurtful to suddenly know that your love is married! Damn damn damn. I have no clue as to how to combat this depressing feeling. Please help! She talks very nicely to me... and calls me her special friend. I did tell her that I love her... and she said that if there was an other woman in her place, that woman wouldn't have left me; but she is forced to, because she's happily married. Everything said and done. I am the one suffering here. Not able to get over this. It makes me feel sick. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionQUESTION AUTHOR'S/ASKER'S RESPONSE:
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@q1605: Really? Getting laid does not strip you off your feelings man. There is a difference between a heart and a penis.
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@raiders: Yeah, I think you are right. Its a tough phase I should go through.
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reader, raiders  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 Maybe the best thing you can do is add distance...it will hurt but eventually you will heal it will be the best thing to do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionQUESTION AUTHOR'S/ASKER'S RESPONSE:
@prion: Its the freshest analogy I found - "...with water".
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@raiders: Thank you for your reply || Yes sure. Its not that I am not able to concentrate on work without her. Work is work and her is her. However I am not able to forget her how much ever I engross myself in other things. The problem is that she tags me as her best friend. That's good I like it but, being with her so close makes me feel weird and reminds me time and time again that I love her dearly.
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@eyeswideopen: Thank you for your response. I am OKAY without her for a while. But when I meet her I feel stamped. A constant unpleasant reminder of my failure to pursue my love as I see it. :(
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@ anonymous: Thank you for your support. Thanks a lot! Since you are anonymous, I do not know who you are. I would definitely want to talk. Drop me a message, if you can. :)
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@admirer1950: Thank you for a really mature response. I suppose I should be satisfied with the friendship alone. There's no other alternative. But the feeling is killing me, I am 19 as well. I am clueless and confused. Tough times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2010): I feel sorry for you . I like a guy at the moment , but he has a girlfriend. i know its not the same as him being married, but its just as bad i think. i can understand how much you are hurting as i am too. i'm here to support you if you want to talk.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (12 May 2010):
 You worship from afar. You stay busy with your life. Go out with friends, see movies, ride your bike, take hikes, go to the gym, check out a museum, anything to keep your mind from dwelling on this. Sooner or later she will only become a passing thought.
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reader, raiders +, writes (12 May 2010):
Keep yourself busy so that you don't think on her. Try to go out on dates eventually you will find someone that will make you feel all that you feel right now plus more. Go our clubbing, hang out with friends, but do listen to your friends stay away from her, she is married therefore you need to respect that.
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