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30-35,
anonymous
writes:so my gf and i have been official 3 weeks.she is Amazing..but i noticed she is distancing herself from me.she doesnt seem to want to cuddle or let me hold her as much..the other day we were together and she was doing it again..i was irritated,but we started talking.she was tellin me about her life and dating and all sorts of stuff..she mentioned she had a problem distancing herself with every guy she has went out with.and all of them then become her best friends..she said it just happens and shes good at it, its all she knows..shes not sure why.she thinks maybe commitment issues or just doesnt want to get hurt...i told her she can talk to me about any feelings that shes feeling he said "ok" and told her i will never hurt her nd will be there for her she just said "i know"...she obviously cares for me sumwhat.cuz she is a virgin nd told me her sayin was no ice no dice(no ring,no punani).but 2 weeks go she wanted to lose it to me..although she did change her mind at the last second.since then she never thought about it gain..but now i am feeling the distancing fro her.i dont want to let her go cuz i dont wanna hurt her if its not what she wants.i told her i wanna be there for her and i really do...i dont know wht to do or how to handle this..any help would be great.thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): thanks that helps a lil..i dunno how to tell her i love her tho cuz im not sure shes quite there yet.cuz of some ex issue.i think she has feelins 4him lil even tho she jus says its only as friends..i do love her but dont wan say it nd make her feel weird.. and i have trouble starting up conversation sumtimes..its like nuthin comes 2mind 2 tlk bout..nd wen i do start tlkn bout sumtin it usually ends quick..im not sure u can help me wit that.?.cuz that nite i wasnt tlkn at first really nd she was like start a conversation with me.i cudnt.=/i suck at it..i dont wan b not tlkin enough nd her lose interest that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): Aside from having conversations (in person or over phone) and seeing each other each day, why not spend time together doing an activity?
Take her and go for a walk in the park, if possible, walk your dog (or her's). Or spend time at a resturant talking about life and how things are going.
Remember, even little things help. Texting her or saying "love you" at appropriate moments goes a long way. =D
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