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writes: I have been married for 4 years. We have 2 children and I take care of his other 3. I am 27 years old. I am a very busy person with no outlet for letting go. My stress level is to the roof. I get no help with the kids or anything for that matter. He treats us like crap all the time. He has his nice moments, but for the most part he talks to me like I am his child. I am to the point were I have had enough. I love him, he claims he loves us, but I just do not know. My kids cry because they go to practice the sports they play and all the other daddys are there, I can not fill that void. I was asked to go out this weekend and he was invited and he said he is not going and I am not allowed either, he was never like this. He is pushing me away big time, and he wonders why I am hardly "in the mood". He says he has the right to be like this because he pays the bills, like he is the only man in America that works. I work. take care of 5 kids, am the president of the P.T.A., I am just as tired and busy. How do I make him see that this is an equal thing. And that he has got to be nicer or I will find the strength to leave. I know there is some one out there that will respect me, but I love him. Reply to this Question
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (21 December 2005):
Oh come on, you are a mature woman. You can love more than one man in your life and a far better one than this hippo. Just let him know he adds to the bills too and you can do without his debt. Dump this rotter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2005): Been there, done that. Single mom now, thank you. My kids respect me, and I respect myself. You can't make that man respect you. What you should do is ask yourself what about him do you love? Really. If you don't plan to leave him, then start acting like a single mom, and make your own plans and arrangements without him. You gave him a chance. Take his money, hire a babysitter, and get a life while you still have the chance. If that doesn't work, leave.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (20 December 2005):
 Hi there, firstly i would like to commend u cos u r a strong woman working with five kids must be pretty tough.
You could talk to him about it.Communication also keeps. I think both of u are really strained here and the tension is building. u could also considered counselling.
Take care now and stay strong.
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