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writes:Up until I was 12, I had many friends, was very outgoing, and loved life. Now its the opposite. When I got to the age of 12, I got really bad acne. Since then, my confidance has gone down, I rarley talk to people, because that means they have to look at my face, and I avoid mirrors because I cry at the reflection.Now my friends list has gone from dozens, to two. And my mother is one of those two. The other girl I rarley talk to.Whenever I meet guys, they just stare at my forehead,(Where the acne is the worst) so to be honest, I don't think I'm ever going to be able to date. I've tried every treatment offered to me by my doctor, and I've tried home remidies too, so I give up on trying to get rid of itI just want to know how to get my confidance back,How to not be bothered by the reflection, how to go out without putting a shed load of makeup on (I only started wearing it when I stopped trying treatments, and it hasn't worsend.), how to look people in the face without the only thing on my mind being "I bet they think I'm a loser," how to make friends without thinking about if they're just doing it because they're feeling sorry for me and how to be happy again.
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reader, Luv_doc +, writes (6 January 2011):
Hiya, sorry to hear this but as hard as it is you've got to push past your acne and let it go. Those girls were not really your friends at all if they left you over something like this. I know it's rough (school is for a lot of people) but acne won't last forever. I used to suffer from horrible spots and still get them occasionally but people are ok about it, everyone has their crosses to bear.
Don't give up on the treatments, I know there are some really effective ones out there, google it because you may not be automatically offered them. Have you been given a consultation with a dermatologist? And please don't think that layering in make up will help. If anything it will make them worse and it won't hide them. I mean wear some but don't cake it on. Maybe concentrate on your eyes/lips? Make them really pretty. Just remember that the horrid bullies and idiots at school are having their
heyday now, yours is on it's way.
You are most definitely not a loser ;) just try to remember that.
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reader, ToHereKnowsWhen  +, writes (6 January 2011):
 This is a wonderful opportunity for you to shine! Forget piles of makeup this is a time to change your focus from trying to be Miss World to being a really great person by showing people WHO you really are.It will be difficult to gain your confidence back, but put a smile on your face, get yourself out there, talk to people and show them what a great person you are. Don't cry at your reflection, look and reach deeper inside yourself.I about soldiers from the first world war who had hideous burns over their faces and bodies (worse than acne). As the story goes, apparently they ended up marrying many of the nurses that cared for them. Why? Because they could make them laugh and could be very very charming.Use you acne, don't let it use you. When the acne goes... just imagine.Be truly beautiful.
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reader, Janai  +, writes (6 January 2011):
I have never had a problem with acne, but I have with my weight. I know exactly how it used to feel when you were afraid that when they talked to you they only saw your outside and not the true beauty within. The only way to gain your confidence back is to love yourself! I know that sounds hard and cliche' but i promise that it is the only thing that will help. It won't come about overnight, but do things that make you feel good about yourself, and when you find and do those things on a regular basis and see your true beauty you will be UNSTOPPABLE ;)GOOD LUCK!!
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