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anonymous
writes:I never thought that I was a lesbian until I saw this new teacher at school.She came in the second term and she was just perfect.I dont have any friends at school and so I am usually very friendly and nice with the teachers.She was so nice with me and we talked alot.She gave me hugs and send me like presents and stuff.The one day I forgot to pack in food and the tuckshop was out of food and when she found me crying she jumped in her car and bought me a pie,while break was still on.Shes 28 and married.I tried very hard to forget about her and the way she spoke to me but thenone day she told me that she was pregnant.I was fine with it and left it there.I stopped talking and seeing her for 6 months .One day she asked me to help out with her class.(She teaches 9 year olds) and I agreed.She lifted up her shirt and one of the kids touched her stomach and asked her something.She must have seen me staring because she asked me to feel the baby kick.It was so amazing .Her stomach was realy hard and she joked about it and I could clearly feel the baby kicking very hard and fast.When we talked about names.She said that she liked my second name very much and it would be a beautiful name for a girl.I have no idea what to do.I realy dont want to tell her about my feelings but I feel like shes coming on the same way.Like she feels the same about me !!!!If anybody has any clue to what I must do please helpP.S. And do you think she also likes me or just being over friendly ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts kinda hard speaking to another member of staff or any staff for that matter because you see my mother is her H.O.D.
(Head of department teacher)
I know.I got myself into a real tuffy.
Everytime I see her.She tells me that her husband wants to see me.(I never knew why)
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She told me its about my book.(I wrote a book about our school.She is in the book but theres no love or relationship between me and her in it.But in the book its about this guy and a satanistic group that wants to turn the school children into evil satanist and when a few teachers get in the way a few teachers get killed and this student tries to save everybody bla bla bla...)
So firstly heres the problem
She stole the book from my bag to read it.(I never gave it to her.She did admit to this.)
Secondly - She and her husband are huge Christians.I think they might think that I am doubting my faith or even that I am a satanist(I am absolutly NOT)
What can I possibly do to make her believe that I am a Christian?(I have already started singing very loudly in assembly with the Christian songs.I got a christams card that reads.(maby I wont say.I can never know .One of her friends or even she could be on this site)
Thx for listening oneFOOTwrong.I guess thats all I need.Someone to listen to me.
I just hope I do not do something drastic like bite myself or.I have to confess .I am still madly inlove with her.Sometimes at school.I would pick a fight with the bullies just so that I could stand next to her and cry.When I stand infront of her door.She always lets me in.She knows I am suppose to be somewhere else but yet she tells me to come in and help her. Like reading the kids a story.When I read it she comes and sits on the mat next to me like al the other kids and I can feel her looking intensly at me.Studing me.On the last day of school.I took some pictures with all my favorite teachers and she was the last stop.I stare 24/7 at those pictures(my friend took them)
She asked me to touch her stomach and feel the baby move.She told me that she had contractions the other day.But the docter said that it was just strong kicks.She told me that she likes me feeling her stomach because then the baby starts to move and she likes the fact that my hands are warm
Im very sorry that I wrote such a long post.But its the only way that I can releave my frustration.Thx for replying.It keeps me company.And its nice knowing someone out there wants to help you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): Yes, I'm wondering the same thing, why did she kiss you ?
Maybe you should speak to her privately, and ask. Don't sound like you're expecting a positive response, but you've got a right to know what she was thinking of, and why was she kissing you when she's got a husband and a child on the way.
So yeaah, just talk to her privately, after school maybe, when there aren't any other students lurking around corridors. If it was just the once, if she says it was a mistake, then everyone makes mistakes let it go. If it continues, you should speak to another member of staff.
Hope I've helped :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThx oneFOOTwrong
But Im just so scared.I dont think I will be able to control myself if she comes on to me again.I get totally crazy and adrenalin is high.Im worried I might hurt her.
Lucky I havent been seeing her lately.(On the count that our school is closed)
I find myself still starring at pictures I took with her)and everytime I smile.)
I dont want to break up her marriage.Thats insane.I would never go that far.
But why would she kiss me.
Just a tease or
was it more like a family kiss or
Does she really have feelings for me.
Well anyway,until next year because then I will see her everyday for 2 hours.
P.S. The baby will be born on the 27 of February.
Thx for all the advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009): You are 16/17 (it says so at the top of your first post) so you're the legal age but if any sexual contact, kissing, whatever, makes you feel uncomfortable it's still a crime, and plus she's got this baby and her husband.
If you do not want anything to happen, then tell her.
If you do want her to continue (which means tearing her family apart), then don't say a word.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate:
There is no easy way to say this but
She kissed me and nothing like a peck or anything of the sort.Full on the mouth.I pushed her weakly away and ran out of her class.She left.Later she came back to the school and also bought me a christmas present.I havent opened it
yet.(She gave the present to my mum to give it to me-thats weird)
I cant believe she kissed me.
Why would she do that?
What did she mean with this kiss?
Should I make the first move and tell her off?
And I was just getting over her.
Help
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHer husband is coming to school 2 moro and i am so scared.she said that he really
Wants to meet me and that we should have a chat
Please help guys.im clueless!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): hi,
female anon here.
She probabaly has lots of facebook friends, esp if she is a nice person, and she might be asking other students, and teachers as well?, she might be asking u cos you said u are leaving the school, u r leaving the school? there is no need for u to be her husbands facebook freind, why do that? u dont know him.
Im sure she means no harm , shes being nice and freindly but.. students & teachers cant be freinds!! shes probably just being nice and not thinking about that.
tell her that u cant do it, make an excuse whatever.. u dont have to seem rude, make it a joke or something and tell her that all your freinds at school will think it wierd if a teacher wants to be your freind... who is freinds with a teacher?... you might look like a nerd or a geek or it might make u unpopular, whatever.. You dont have to give her yr phone number! shes not yr friend, shes a teacher and thats not appropriate, even though she may be only being nice and just wants to stay in contact with u. Maybe tell her that yr parents wont like it if u give yr number to a teacher, make an excuse or be honest and say u dont feel comfortable. u dont have to meet her husband!! unless he came to the school to say hi I wouldnt meet him, there is no need for you too. Tell her that you are busy if u dont want to offend her.
you dont have to do anything u dont want t!!
if u hurt her feelings, well thats too bad, but shes an adult with a husband and a new baby soon and shell get over it!! she has more important things to worry about - a baby soon, her baby is the most important thing right now.
you need to do whats right for you and what makes you feel happy. Be happy! see yr freinds, have fun and move on from her,dont worry about her anymore, wish her well and say bye.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate:
I decided to go to her class today and help her.It went actually quite well.But (she told me this morning)that she has now invited me on facebook.
I don't think I can ignore her request because that will be very rude.She also asked for my cell number as she wants to call me.Her husband also would like to meet me in person and she said that she thinks I should invite him on facebook.
WHAT do I do now?????????
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): hi,
this is female anon again.
IF you really feel uncomfortable maybe you can tell her you cant go to her class and make an excuse? but..
she might just be being nice! maybe she needs help with something and knows that she can rely on you? it doesnt automatically mean she is attracted to you.
Be polite, you can be nice, there is no need to be overfreindly, but dont be rude to her.
remember she is a teacher and u a student, you cant be freinds, she would get into LOTS of trouble if she did anything to you, its against the law.
she is pregnant and im sure she doesnt want any trouble, she will be having a baby soon, thats all she needs to worry about, her new baby.
no need to tell her u like her.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHX so much for all your replies.I wont tell her(i think)
She asked me to come to her class tomorow.I am a bit anxious.I wonder what she wants me to do there?
Must I be over kind back to her or keep my distance in the class.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): trust me I have been there at your age, I was 16 and I was attracted to my teacher, I told her, she was Ok but she was ambarrassed and I ended up feeling embarrasssed, I should have not said anything and just liked her from a distance. its perfectly normal to have crushes on teachers at yr age and its OK to be whoever you are, gay or straight. Shes very nice but.. shes only being nice, remember shes married/pregnant, she might have been too nice but try to put it down to a crush, try to focus on dating ppl your own age and school, freinds, sport whatever... it will get better and you will look back one day and be glad u didnt tell her. Please dont tell her, its Ok to like her but it cant go anywhere, it will be easier when you leave, (you wrote you were leaving.) keep busy doing other thinfgs and she will start to fade from your mind.
good luck and take care
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 December 2009):
I don't think you need to tell her at all. I think that would only worry her at a time when she doesn't need to be worried.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear CaringGuy
Thx for the advice but do you think I must tell her.
I never really wanted to be with her and have a relationship.I know I cant and understand that that is not what she wants.(due to being married)
I only would like to know if I (as a student) should tell her(if it should be my duty to tell her?)
She makes me so mad somedays with the way she is coming on to me.Telling me that Im a good person and people are Jealous of me and and and...
But thx for the reply.
P.S. Im leaving the school in 2 days.So everything should work out fine.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 December 2009):
She's just being friendly. I'm afraid she's a teacher, and you're a student and that's as far as it will ever go. She's married and she's having a baby. I'm afraid you have to be very brave and just work through your crush. She#s a lovely lady who has helped you when you were down, but that's as far as it goes. Be brave, make sure you're seeing other people and going out and you will get over her.
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