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writes:If I am in a relationship that my parents are extremely against, do I sacrifice my happiness to please them? The only reason they don't agree with it is because he was once in a relationship with one of my friends. We weren't close, and I didn't steal him from her or anything like that. They broke up and we started liking each other over time. Do I follow my parents wishes and end it with him, or forget what they say, and be happy with the one I want?
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (20 December 2008):
 You are welcome and I think that's a wise choice. Best wishes.
Blessings,
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your responses.
i will talk to my mom a little more about it.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (19 December 2008):
It really depends on all of the circumstances involved. As a parent I can certainly see where they would be concerned. I have this thing about dating someone who a friend of mine has liked and/or dated. I just don't go there. It can cause complicated situations.
The choice in the end I would say is definantely yours You should let your parents know that even though you respect their wishes you want them to look at your point of view. If he's a good guy and their only concern is about hurting the feelings of your friend, perhaps they know you well enough. Maybe they have enough knowledge about how that sort of relationship could cause a loss of friendship. What if the relationship doesn't work out? You could have lost a friend and still not have the guy.
Sometimes realtionships do work reguardless and the friend remains a friend. Most of the time however the stress over trying to protect your friend, pleasing your parents and being the girlfriend the guys expects can makes things so hard it's barely worth the worry over it. Again I say the choice is yours as you are probably old enough to make this decision alone. The fact that you are concerned about your parents show that you care about their advice. Perhaps you should really think it all over, carefully. What you do know in this situation will forever change the experiences you have in the future with your friend, your parents and the guy.
It's a hard thing to do...but if and when you decide to follow your heart, please rememeber to let your consience be your guide. Things may turn out for the good no matter how you choose, but again they could turn out to be a big ole mess. You have to be mature enough to choose and stand by your decision.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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