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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend and I have been sexually active for 4 or 5 months now, we've probably had intercourse 15 - 20 times. She told me today that every time we've done it, she feels pain - she still wants to do it, because sometimes it feels good or she thinks it will when we do, but it's causing her pain. i'm very tall compared to her (she's a petite girl), and everything's in proportion if you get what i mean.. so there's a problem with physically actually fitting. She's taking the pill and a drug called roaccutane for her skin. we are both 16. I don't want to make love if it causes her pain because it shouldn't be about my pleasure and me feeling good at her expense. How can we make it pleasurable for her? we use lube but probably not as much as we should, and if we're not making love we're doing other things (2nd base kind of things) - could doing that less make it better or worse for her? she's been with one guy who's my best mate, they only went to second base and this was a long while back, he's very clean as well, and I've only kissed previous girlfriends, so I'm sure it couldn't be an STI problem. What can I/we do? This is a distressing and frustrating problem for both of us as it's not a mental barrier and are very much in love, and are ver affectionte towards eachother. Please no comments on our readiness based on our age, we are well aware and are confident in our decision, however if simply waiting until we are more physically mature is the answer, I will listen.
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reader, Squirtle1706 +, writes (27 January 2009):
 I was like that. if she has never had sex before you its just virgintitis. :P me and my boyfriend were very cautious at first. you want to take a postition when your sitting up and she is sittijng on top of you, stretches her a bit more. but first you need to rub her clit a certain way, look it up. or you can finger her properly but look it up. too hard to explain. :P but yeh. do that first, will make her heaps wet. and stop using lube, use spit. works better. be gentle at first so she is used to it. hope it hhelps. BTW, me and my boyfriend r similair to you and your gf. hes a whole foot taller then me and im oly 5'3
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