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writes:How do you get over a broken heart? I have tried every suggestion that there is out there, but still I am just so empty feeling inside.I cant even hear this guys name or it makes me cry. My goodness when does it end? it's been 5 months and we were together not even a year. He has a new girlfriend now, of course, and it doesn't help that I know her and actually like her. I have finally gotten past doing the drive bys and wanting to call him all the time, but I am still so sad and I just miss him terribly and want him back. I don't understand why this is affecting me so hard...there were issues that I thought I couldn't live with at the time, and so I am the one who broke it off but i feel like I made a big mistake. he just says we are friends now but I don't want to be just his friend. Should I just accept that I may never get over him? I don't want TO BE WITH ANYONE ELSE...I have tried, and it's just not the same. Isn't there some way I can win him back? I doubt he knows I am still feeling this way. He knew before but I imagine he thinks I'm over it.I actually sat there at his house with him and his new girlfriend a couple weeks ago and had cocktails and tried to act like it was cool, but It was all I could do not not cry right there in front of them. I'm so jealous of her...I cried all nite when I left. love stinks.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (5 June 2011):
 Here is your problem. "Don't want to be with anyone else"
Now, I ask, why rob someone else of your company? Your outgoing personality that has so much to offer? Why sit around and mop and create sadness for yourself? Is that who you were in the RS with this EX? No, you were happy and motivated and moving forward with this guy. So do this for yourself now. Live today and all this week like you are already enjoying the most delightful and perfect RS. Then you will know what it is like to have a great RS with yourself and this will certainly shine for all to enjoy.
Why waste your joy and pursuit of life and happiness on just one heart, one man, one personality, find many, enjoy all.
ignite that flame inside you that says "wow, I cool, life is cool"
Lets face it, it's just to easy to throw in the towel, to surrender to give up. Be your own Joan of Arc, grab that sword get on that horse and ride out into the sunset of the unknown adventure called LIFE
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reader, freeme +, writes (5 June 2011):
 Love is unfair and can stink for sure. A relationship expert recently told me it can take 1-2 years to recover from the loss of love. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): I dont know a great deal of essential information about your life to tell you how your best getting over someone.So here is some science to help you understand what is going on in your head.Without too much complication. Imagine your emotions being a liquid which is essentially what they amount to inside your head.When you get to know someone. new pathways form in your brain from various parts to another. Your brain is designed to learn from memory. and bad experiences carry emotion which travel along these path ways.Have you ever wondered why you start liking a certain food, you eat it everyday and after a while you loose that emotional ambition to eat that food.Or maybe you go to they gym with good intentions and it fades off. or start a diet and loose motivation.Everyone gets interested in something for a short period of time and loses interest eventually. like fashions or crazes.This is because the neuro pathways become exhausted with using the same amount of energy to attach emotions to it so it defends its energy reserve by cutting off the happy chemicals or sad chemicals or whatever the emotion might be.Its like every memory has a cup. and in that cup is a designated amount of emotion for that particular object or person. (that explains why majority of people fall out of love or want to cheat)Knowing this bit of science about your brain can help you. because you now know you still have emotion in your cup. So use it up.Let your self cry. dont stop your self. cry and cry and cry until your content... you will find that when you are content you dont feel the emotion anymore. you feel numb to it.And when you become numb and dont care anymore......guess who comes running back... thats right... they always show up when you lose interest.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (5 June 2011):
 i think you are dong the wrong thing by remaining in his life. if i ever want to get over someone i totally avoid them, break off all contact and don't go anywhere near places that they might be. this is like a scab that won't ever heal as long as you keep picking at it and that is exactly what you are doing every time you spend time in their company. get on with your life with your other friends, fill you time, plan fun things that you will look forward to doing.
don't forget, he is your ex for a reason, you broke it off because of issues, have these issues now changed? really? if you want one last shot, tell him how you feel and that your regret splitting from him and that you never got over him, but if he says no to you , then you will just have to accept that and remove yourself from his life completely and then in time it WILL get easier and you may even feel ready to have a new boyfriend one day
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