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writes: I need some advice. I currently live in Spain with my partner of six years. I am very unhappy living in Spain but am happy with my partner. I want to move back to the UK and he has told me he never wants to move back. I don't have a job I like or many friends and all my family are back in the UK. I am in my 30s and am desperate to have children but he says no because of the situation. I have thought long and hard and can't come to any decision. I would be happy in all aspects moving back to the UK except one: I wouldn't have my partner. I have said maybe moving to Gibraltar as I would be able to get a job there easier but I'm not sure if I would be totally happy there either. I just keep going from day to day, hoping things will work out, but it has been 4 years now and I still haven't settled here. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, bridget +, writes (23 March 2006):
 Im sorry If I did sound too harsh..
I just wanted to help you...
Let me know what happens
Jacqueline
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much Jacqueline for your response. I think you are right in what you say but its so hard to put it into practice. Im really scared of the future.
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reader, bridget +, writes (20 March 2006):
Hey there pet..
Im sorry to have to say this but I really think YOU
should do what makes you happy.. Of course you would miss your partner if you moved back to the UK, but please do ask yourself What makes me happy?? Answer? Your partner ..
You have already compared how much happier you would be living back in the UK.. A job you would enjoy (there is nothing worse than having a job you hate) Its where you spend 50 to 60 % of your time.. Your Family, Friends, Plus being 30 and unhappy is really worrying.. Thats the time that you would want to settle down..
Even if you just went back to the UK to visit.. And see how it is.. If your partner is totally against it, then maybe look at the other elements of your relationship.. Are they ok?? If not, Then maybe its time to do something for you..
As for Gibraltar. moving to another country isnt going to solve your problems. It will only make them worse pet..
Maybe its that time to look at the bigger picture..
Good Luck with whatever you decide
Jacqueline
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